When we go to deal with a cat we must remember that they need 'special' care. Let us bear in mind that cats are not children, they are not dogs, they are cats ... by this I mean that some things that seem obvious with them do not work.
A clear example is the punishments, with them we do not need them. When a problem arises we must use understanding and positive work. Although it is hard for us to believe it, we must think that when the cat has a behavior problem, it is showing us that something is also happening in you.
With the term 'no' we are giving the phrase a very strong negative charge, which in this animal is useless. The cat understands the attitude you are having and that it is full of negative energy. The cat understands your attitude, your anger and that scares them. The only thing we will do is damage the relationship with them.
Cats do not need a hierarchical superior, they do not command or allow themselves to be commanded. They are animals that are handled alone, they can become intolerant of other cats and very territorial.
In their eyes we are not cats but humans. They know you more than you imagine, they will never see you as an authority. Reality shows us that we do not have cats that are disobedient, but rather people who do not know how to treat them. To get along with them you must understand why they act the way they act, never think that they do it to annoy you since it is not like that.
More information - Apathy in cats