Ngamanye amaxesha uboya bethu bunokubonisa ubundlongondlongo okanye ubundlobongela ukuba uziva uhlaselwe okanye ushiyekile. Ewe kunjalo, eyona ndlela isebenzayo yokuthintela oku kungenzeki kukuqonda ulwimi lwabo lomzimba kwaye ubaphathe ngentlonipho nothando, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba ngenye imini, ngaphandle kokuqhubeka, bayaluma kwaye / okanye bakrweqe xa bephulula.
Ndiyenza njani ikati yam iyeke ukuba ndlongondlongo? Ukuba sinawo lo mbuzo, Apha ngezantsi siza kufumanisa ukuba kutheni ibonakala inje kwaye kufuneka siyenze ntoni ukuze izole.
Kutheni le nto iikati zinokuba ndlongondlongo?
Zininzi izizathu zokuba ikati, nokuba ingoyena mntu unothando, inokuba ndlongondlongo:
- Ndiziva ndikonaUmzekelo, xa ikati yesibini, inja okanye umntu ekujongile ngelixa ugubungela okanye uvale ukuphuma okunokwenzeka.
- Baye bahlasela ummandla wabo: ikati sisilwanyana somhlaba. Xa singenisa isilwanyana sesibini ekhayeni kufuneka sazise kancinci kancinci ukuze kungabikho ngxaki.
- Uye waphathwa kakubi: nokuba lixesha elidlulileyo wayelixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ukuba abantu akufuneki sibonise) ikati iyakucaphuka kakhulu.
- Yiba neentlunguikati eligulayo okanye eliva iintlungu kwelinye lomzimba linokuba ndlongondlongo.
- Unoburhalarhume ngokwendalo: Kukho iikati ezingakuthandi nje ukudibana nabantu nangona bebehlala nazo bonke ubomi babo. Kule meko eyona nto intle ukuyenza ... ungenzi nto.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuze uyeke ukuba ndlongondlongo?
Ukongeza koku sithethileyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, zininzi izinto ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni xa usamkela ikati. Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo nezicacileyo yile ayiyiyo injaNgamanye amagama, asinakulindela ukufumana ukuthembela kwakho kwangolo suku sikubuyisela ngalo ekhaya. Okokuqala, kufuneka simbonise ukuba simthanda ngokwenene kwaye siyamhlonela. Njani? Ilula kakhulu: ngeenkonkxa zokutya okumanzi, ngezinto zokudlala, nangee-caresses ezingalindelekanga (umzekelo, xa usitya okanye uphazanyiswa yinto ethile).
Enye into esiza kuyenza hlonipha indawo yabo kunye nendlela yabo. Oku kuthetha ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba uzame ukutshintsha ubuntu bakho. Ndiyathetha, ukuba yikati engakuthandiyo ukubanjwa, ngekhe. Ndiyakuxelela ukuba omnye wam ungqwabalala: akathandi ukubanjwa kwaye angandongamela xa ndiyenza ixesha elide (1 okanye 2 yemizuzu); Nangona kunjalo, uyakuthanda ukuphathwa xa ekhululekile ebhedini. Yonke ingumbandela wokufumana elona xesha lilungileyo lokumbonisa ukuba umthanda kangakanani.
Ungandivumeli luma ni ukukrwela. Oku kufuneka ugcine engqondweni. Ngendlela efanayo awuyi kumphatha kakubi, kuya kufuneka afunde ukungasebenzisi amazinyo okanye iinzipho zakhe ukukwenzakalisa, nokuba iyadlala. Ke ngoko, ukusukela ngomhla wokuqala abuya ngawo ekhaya kufuneka umfundise ukuba angayenzi. Kwiikhonkco ndicacisa indlela yokufezekisa.
Ikhathaze ikati yakho Phambi kokuba abe shushu (iinyanga ezintandathu okanye njalo) yenye yeendlela zokunciphisa okanye zokuphelisa nokuziphatha gwenxa. Lo ngumsebenzi olula emva koko isilwanyana esiya kuphila ngokukhawuleza (iveki kwimeko yeekati, kunye neentsuku ezimbalwa kwimeko zeekati).
Ukuhloniphana kuya kuba yinto ejika ubudlelwane bakho bube bobuhlobo obusulungekileyo nobuhlala buhleli.