Sonke esamkele okanye safumana ikati njengenjana sifumene ukuluma okungaqhelekanga. Oku kuqheleke ngokupheleleyo, kuba ekugqibeleni, iinkukhu zisebenzisa amazinyo azo ukujonga yonke into ejikelezileyo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka simyeke asilume; inyaniso, Kubaluleke kakhulu ukumfundisa ukuba akanako ukwenza oko kuthi ukunqanda iingxaki ezivela kwixesha elizayo.
Ungayifumana njani? Ngomonde omkhulu, kunye neengcebiso endiza kukunika apha ngezantsi. Fumanisa indlela yokufundisa ikati yam ukuba ingaluma.
Ukusukela kusuku lokuqala ukufika kwekati ekhaya, kuya kufuneka uyidlale ngalo lonke ixesha usebenzisa into yokudlala: idyasi yeentsiba, intambo, isilwanyana esifakiweyo ..., okanye nantoni na esiyithandayo (ngaphandle kweentambo, kuba kamva iyakudlala nezo yezihlangu, kwaye ubone ukuba ngubani okuxelela ukuba awukwazi ukuyenza.). Kubaluleke kakhulu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sikugcine oku engqondweni: into yokudlala kufuneka ibephakathi kwekati nasesandleni sethu; Ngamanye amagama, kufuneka isebenze "njengekhaka" lokhuseleko.
Akukho ndlela apho kufuneka ubeke isilwanyana esifakwe phakathi kwemilenze kwaye uyihambise ngokukhawuleza ukusuka kwelinye icala ukuya kwelinye, kuba kungenjalo into esiya kuyenza kukumkhuthaza ukuba ahlasele, hayi i-teddy kuphela, kodwa nesandla, ke xa sele emdala uyakwenza oku kuthi:
Into ebuhlungu kakhulu. Ke, phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko akufuneki sikwenze ube novalo ukuba asifuni ukuba ususe iinzipho zakho kwaye ushiye isandla sakho kunye nokukrwela ngamanye amaxesha kunye / okanye ukuluma.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa endiluma?
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuba nomonde. Ukuba uthe wabamba isandla sakho nangasiphi na isizathu, njengoko kubonisiwe kumfanekiso ongentla, phakathi kwemilenze yakhe, ivale kwaye ungenzi ntshukumo. Kancinci kancinci iya kuzola, kwaye ungayifumana kwakhona. Nje ukuba unayo, sukuyingxolisa okanye uyibethe, ayizukunceda nganto, ukuze umoyike. Ungayihoyi, kwaye emva kwemizuzu emihlanu okanye elishumi uqale ukudlala ngayo usebenzisa into yokudlala.
Ukuba ufuna ukunqanda ukulunywa, ndincoma ukuba umphathe ngentlonipho, uzolile. Iikati, ngokubanzi, zizilwanyana ezizolileyo, ezingakuthandiyo ukuhamba ngequbuliso, ke ukuba asifuni kulunywa, kufanelekile ukuzola.
Mholo! Kwinyanga ephelileyo ndaye ndamkela ikati emalunga neminyaka emi-4 ubudala kwaye ndinomkhwa wokuluma njengefoto. Ndizama ukumnqanda kodwa uyaqhubeka nalo mkhwa, ndingenza ntoni !!! ???
Molo eVirginia.
Kufuneka ube nomonde. Ngalo lonke ixesha ezama ukukuluma, umnike into yokudlala, okanye ahambe.
Ayizukuthatha ixesha elide ukuba ufunde ukuba awukwazi.
A ubingelele.
molo .... kuqhelekile kwikati enempilo. ndilale kakhulu …… enkosi
Molo uDanelly.
Ukuba ulele phakathi kwe-16 kunye neeyure ezili-18, kuyinto eqhelekileyo 🙂
A ubingelele.
Ewe, ndinendawo embi kum. Xa bebancinci, abanye babo bayathanda ukudlala ngayo yonke into abayifumanayo, kwaye ewe, isandla sesinye sokudlala kwaye siyasebenzisana, ndiyabayeka bayenze, lithuku labo, kufana nokuxelela ukhetshe ukuba abhabhe, kodwa hayi phezulu kakhulu. Abanye babamba amazinyo ngakumbi, omnye ukhupha ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kwezikhonkwane kwimilenze yangasemva ... kodwa ke, ndiza kukuxelela oh! Owu! ukuba undenza pupita… emva koko, uhlala ethe cwaka, undijonge kwaye uyaqhubeka nokuluma, kodwa okhululekileyo haha, iinjana zenja zenza okufanayo, ziyabakhathaza amazinyo xa bephuma / bekhula.
Enye into kukuba umama eze kukhusela unyana wakhe. Kanye namhlanje, ndive isikhalazo sekati, kwavela ukuba inenye yemilenze exineneyo ngentambo ebambe ulwelo lwetyhubhu (abenzi bamadoda, ityhubhu ebiza kakhulu kunye nolwandle lwenkawu, kuye kwafuneka yilahle kude kuba ukuyihlamba ngaphakathi kwakungekho lula, kwaye ityhubhu eqinileyo / iscraper / isincedisi somnyango esasiza nayo phantse sasilayisha inqina lam lekati), kuba ngelixa ndandikhulula intambo ezandleni zakhe, wayesakhala (enkosi ulungile apho ukuze "amsindise") kwaye unina wekati weza ebaleka ezokujonga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, kwaye ihlwempu landiluma isandla, ngaphandle kokundilimaza, ngokungathi uthi, Umenza ntoni unyana wam?
Mhlawumbi njengokuba ndandiqhele ukudlala ngesandla sam njengomntwana, nanjengoko babezenza (isibini) sesilumkiso kuphela. Andazi, nditsho.
Namhlanje siza kunika ikati inombolo ye-18, indlela endiziva / ndiziva kakubi ngayo. Iimvakalelo ezixubileyo. Kulungile kuba siza kunika ikati «ekhethekileyo» (bubuhle obuxabisekileyo, ubuSiamese obufana nealbino, iinxalenye ekufuneka zimnyama, ziyi-vanilla / pinki), iyathandeka kwaye iyadlala, kwintombazana ekhethekileyo nayo, kuba umxholo wezempilo. Okubi ngenxa yokuba uyabathanda kwaye ibhondi iyenziwa.
Ndiyathemba ukuba uyayithanda njengokuba ndinayo.
Molo, ngobunye ubusuku ikati lam lekati lifika ebhedini kwindawo ekuhlaselwe kuyo, lihambe ngaphezulu kwedayvet kwaye liphele ngokundinika ukulunywa kabuhlungu ezingalweni okanye ezihlahleni. Umnwe wakhe undifaka ngaphakathi. Ndingenza ntoni? Enkosi.
Molo Laura.
Ukuba awukabikho, ndincoma ukuba udlale naye imini yonke, ngentambo okanye ibhola. Ukuba udiniwe, kuya kuba nzima ukuba alume.
Ngayiphi na imeko, ukuba iyakuluma, kufuneka usishiye isandla sakho, ingalo (okanye nantoni na ekulumayo as) nangoku kangangoko de amandla okuluma akhululeke. Emva koko yisuse kancinci.
Kubalulekile ukuba uphephe ukudlala ngokurhabaxa ngayo, kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke ungaze usebenzise izandla okanye iinyawo zakho njengezinto zokudlala. Kancinci kuya kuqondwa ukuba ayizizo iithoyi.
Ukubulisa
Ndithathe nje umfanekiso wabo, wobu buhle, kunye neklone yakhe, ngokudibeneyo kunye nomama wakhe (banenyanga ezimbini ezinesiqingatha ubudala). Uzokukhumbula la maxesha kunye nezo ebezichitha edlala nabantakwabo. Kodwa ukubuya uya kufumana uthando oluninzi lomntu kunye nayo yonke into ekhethekileyo kuye.
Iya kukhathalelwa kakuhle 🙂. Tyhila!!
Ndifunqule ikati esandula kuzalwa sayityisa yada yomelela, qha ngoku inyulu iluma izandla, iingalo, imilenze, iinyawo kwaye ihlala iphathwa ngothando kwaye iyandiluma kuphela, hayi umyeni wam. Ndinenye ikati esele indala eyihlangulayo encinci kwaye uzolile, ulala nam, enye itshabalalisa iphepha lam langasese, yaphula iingxowa zenayiloni, kwaye ndingayichazi eyokuba iyayihlupha ikati nenja yam, andenzi njalo Yazi ukuba wenzeni ngenxa yoko musa ukuluma, kuba sele indishiyile amanxeba ezandleni zombini
Molo Lina.
Xa ubona ukuba izakuluma, yeka umdlalo, kwaye uwushiye nje imizuzu embalwa ude wehle. Soloko udlala ngento yokudlala - ungaze ngezandla zakho - amatyeli aliqela ngemini. Iseshoni nganye kufuneka ihlale malunga nemizuzu eli-10.
Unokuqhagamshelana nomgqirha we-feline, njengoLaura Trillo (ovela kwi-therapyfelina.com).
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