Xa sizisa ikati yabantu abadala ekhaya, sinokuba nengxaki engaqhelekanga yokuyinxibelelana nabanye oboya okanye nabantu. Nangona akusoloko kungenakwenzeka ukumenza abe nobuhlobo ngakumbi, kunzima kakhulu, kuba isimilo kunye nobuntu bakhe kwakudala kudala.
Ke ukuba uyafuna ukwazi unxibelelana njani nekati yabantu abadala emva koko siza kukucacisela. 🙂
Yintoni ekufuneka uyazi malunga nokuziphatha kwekati?
Ukuziphatha kwekati kwenziwa xa kuyinjana. Ukusuka kwinyanga ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu uyakudlula kwixesha elaziwa ngokuba yi "socialization", apho kufuneka abe unxibelelwano nezinye izilwanyana nabantu ukuze kwixesha elizayo azi kwaye afune ukuba kunye nabo. Xa oku kungenzeki, oko kukuthi, xa ikatana ihlala esitratweni okanye kwindlu engakhathalelwanga kakuhle, xa indala iya kuziva yoyika xa umntu okanye omnye uboya efuna ukusondela kuye.
Ngaba ikati endala inokudibana?
Kuxhomekeke kubuntwana obunabo. Ngokubanzi, iikati ezihlala esitratweni, ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuqwalaselwa ngumntu, zizilwanyana ekunokwenzeka ukuba kube nzima ukuzibandakanya. Ngokuchasene noko, ukuba bakhathalelwe ngamavolontiya ukusuka emncinci kakhulu, ewe banokudibana.
Uyifumana njani?
Ngomonde omkhulu, intlonipho, ukomeleza okuhle kwaye ngaphandle kobundlobongela. Kufuneka sisondele kuye kancinci kancinci, ukuba kunokwenzeka ngetoti evulekileyo yeekati (ukutya okumanzi) ukuya fumana ukuthembela kwakho ngokutya. Ukongeza, kufuneka baqonde ulwimi lwabo lomzimba, ukunqanda ukujonga emehlweni kwaye ngaphandle kokumnyanzela ukuba enze nantoni na ayifunayo.
Ukuba sifuna ahlalisane ezinye iikati okanye kunye izinjaKuya kufuneka ube nomonde ngokulinganayo, kwaye wenze intshayelelo kancinci kancinci kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe. Cofa kwiikhonkco ngolwazi oluthe kratya.
Ukuba sineengxaki zokuzibandakanya, eyona nto intle ukuyenza kukucela uncedo kwi-feline ethologist.
Khange ndicinge ukuba ndinekati, kodwa bendinayo iminyaka embalwa. Ndamfumana elahliwe eneentsuku ezingaphezulu kwe-8 kwaye ndamtyisa ngebhotile. Njengokuba ndihlala ebemane endiqhela qha ukuba umntu afike ekhaya azifihle egumbini khange ndikunike ukubaluleka. Ngoku ndinomlingane kwaye xa efika ekhaya kuyingxaki. Ikati iba ndlongondlongo kakhulu kwaye andazi ukuba ndenzeni. Naliphi na icebiso?
Sawuli Julio.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda nokuhlonipha ulwimi lomzimba wakho. Ukuba uyarhola okanye uyahamba, awufanele umnyanzele ukuba abekhona okanye anyamezele into angayifuniyo.
Into endikucebisa ukuba ndiyenze kukucela intombi yakho ingamhoyi. Hayi, asihlekisi. Ukuba ukhe wazibuza ukuba kutheni iikati zisondela kubantu abachasene nekati, yiyo loo nto (bengabahoyi, befulathela, bajonge ngamehlo amxinwa ...), kuba ngaphandle kokwazi aba bantu benza imiqondiso yokuzola ezitsala iingcambu.
Intombi yakho iyayenza lonto. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuphosa ukuphatha ikati (phantsi).
Inokwenzeka ukuba ngekhe ubone ukuphucuka okwethutyana, kodwa nika ikati ixesha. Uya kubona ukuba izinto zincinci zitshintsha njani 🙂
Tyhila.
Ndinonyaka onesiqingatha sekati, besinayo ukusukela sana, sayifumana esitalatweni. Ebengaske wateketiswa kakhulu okanye ezincancise phantsi kwezigqumathelo zesofa ndingenza ntoni ukuze ayenze?
Molo Ana.
Kungcono ukuyamkela njengoko injalo. Kukho iikati ezinothando kakhulu kwaye zithandeka, kodwa kukho ezinye ezinoburharha.
Kungcono ukumvumela ukuba athathe isigqibo sokuba uza kuthetha nini kuwe, ukuba ucele nini ukunyanyiswa, njl.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezinokukunceda: ezifana nokumnika izimuncumuncu zekati kunye nokuthatha ithuba lokuba uyazitya ukuze amphulule.
Ukubulisa