Kwenziwa ntoni ngekati xa isifa

Esi sesinye sezihloko endingathandanga ukuthetha ngaso, kodwa kwimeko yebhlog yekati, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuthetha ngayo yonke into enxulumene nezi zilwanyana zintle. Ungenza ntoni ngekati xa isifa? Zeziphi iindlela esinokukhetha kuzo?

Emva kokumthanda ixesha elide, emva kokonwaba kunye naye kunye nothando, isiphelo sakhe sihlala sifika kwakamsinya xa sele singakulungelanga oko. Kwaye, akukho mntu unokulungiselela ngokupheleleyo ukusweleka komntu omthandayo, kwaye kuncinci ukusho okokugqibela.

Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa ikati isifa?

Akululanga kwaphela ukuvalelisa kumhlobo wakho onomsindo. Sele ziintsuku ezili-X (ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi, oko akunamsebenzi) apho benikunye, apho nabelane khona amaxesha amnandi kunye nezinye ezingakhange zibekho kangako. Ukuhleka kunye neinyembezi, iinkumbulo oya kuhlala uzigcina kwimemori yakho kwaye ziya kukukhapha naphina apho uya khona, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni.

Xa uyazi ukuba yintoni ikati enokukuthanda, awungekhe uyilibale. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile, ngakumbi kuwe, ukuqinisekisa isiphelo esihle. Kodwa, Xa ugqirha emkhuthaza, wenza ntoni? Sinezinto ezimbini onokukhetha kuzo:

• Ngcwaba: kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuba sinesitiya okanye ifama esileyethu. Ewe, akukho ndleko kwaye ikwasivumela ukuba sitsho kuye ngesantya sethu.
• Yitshise: lukhetho ekufuneka silukhethile ukuba asinamhlaba wokungcwaba. Oku kuneendleko ezinokwahluka ngokuxhomekeka kwinkampani ephetheyo. Ukuba sithatha isigqibo sokuyitshisa, kufuneka siyise kugqirha wezilwanyana kwaye uya kuyikhathalela yonke into (rhoxisa i-microchip ukuba ibifakiwe, yazisa inkampani, ilungiselele isilwanyana). Ngelishwa, kumazwe amaninzi afana neSpain iikati ezininzi zitshisiwe kunye, ke ngekhe kubekhona ukubuyisa eyethu inja. Kweminye, njengeParis, kunokutshiswa isidumbu.

Ndazi njani ukuba ikati yam iyafa?

Amakati angena ebomini bethu ngeendlela ezimangalisayo. Ukuhamba kwakhe okuhle, uhlala ngaphandle kokwenza nasiphi na isandi, loo mfuziselo ijongeka ngathi siyayithanda kakhulu, imows ecela ukutya okanye itoti yokutya okumanzi ... Zonke ezi nkcukacha ziba yinxalenye yobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Ezi nkcukacha, kunye nobuntu obunenwele nganye, busenza ukuba sibathande, ukuze sive isidingo sokubakhusela.

Ke ngoko, ngonxibelelwano lwemihla ngemihla, sinokubona xa ubomi babahlobo bethu bukugqibela. Ayisiyo isifo esiqhelekileyo apho kukho iimpawu, kancinci okanye kancinci, kodwa apho izilwanyana zichacha khona emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa. Hayi. Xa ukufa kwakhe kusondela, iimpawu zahlukile, kunye nokuziphatha kwakhona:

• Ukungakhathali
• Ukubekwa wedwa
• Akafuni kutya, nokuba unganyanzelisa kangakanani
• Uchitha imini yonke uphumle okanye ulele
• Intlungu yomzimba ebuhlungu kakhulu
• Ukuba ufumana unyango, uya kudinwa
• Akakhangeli i-caresses njengangaphambili, kodwa uyayixabisa
• Ukunyuka kokukhathazeka kokulahleka kwesisindo
• Akaqhele ukufika xa umbiza

Amava am noSusty

Kwi-2018 enye yeekati zam, uSusty, yangena ekhaya. ndibene Isifo esingapheliyo se-stomatitis gingivitis, phambili kakhulu. Kaninzi. Yaba 'lulusu namathambo'. Njengokuba besimzama ukuba atye, iinkonkxa zakhe zokutya ezimanzi azithandayo, wafika kwinqanaba xa wazala. Wayehlala phambi komkhumbi, ajonge imizuzwana embalwa emva koko ahambe.

Kwakunzima ukusamkela, kodwa uSusty wayesele enze isigqibo: akafuni kuphila. Ngaphandle kokuncitshiswa, ukufudumala kwekhaya kunye nokutya, loo kati yayisokola kakhulu kangangokuba wayefuna nje ukuyigqiba.

Ngomhla we-30 kuMeyi waloo nyaka, ndamsa kugqirha wezilwanyana. Emva kokuyivavanya, nokuthetha naye, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba. Wamncama. Kungekudala emva kokuba ndimtofile, uSusty wandijonga emehlweni, wahlamba. Ndiyarhana ukuba yindlela yakhe yokundibulela, kuba nangona iikati zicoceka xa ziziva zisongelwa okanye zisentlungwini, ziyacoca xa ziziva zilungile.

Kulapho kwaqala khona idubhu yam.

Ukoyisa njani ukufa kwekati?

Inyani yile, bendikhe ndadlula kwimbambano amatyeli aliqela, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba wazi ukuba le "duel" izakuba njani kuwe. Umntu ngamnye lihlabathi, kwaye ngamnye wethu uyoyisa ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ke ngoko, ndingakuxelela kuphela ukuba yintoni esebenzayo kum, kunye noko ndikufundileyo:

• Zama ukunamathela kwinkqubo yakho yemihla ngemihla: ekuqaleni inokubiza iindleko, kodwa ndikholelwe, ngamaxesha anje, udinga uzinzo ... kwaye uqhubeke nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla yeyona nto izinzileyo umntu anokuba nayo.
• Yivalelise kwikati: kukho abo batyala into egadini, okanye bathenga isityalo esincinci kwimemori yabo; abanye babanika umsitho wokuvalelisa; abanye bathatha imifanekiso, baya egumbini bodwa, babaxelele yonke into abafuna ukuyithetha.
• Ukuba uyayifuna, khala: susa eso sihlunu emqaleni wakho ukuba uyasidinga. Khala yonke into ekufuneka uyilile. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula kuwe ukuba uqhubeke.
• Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye nekati yakho: kwaye hayi, awuyi kuzala. Abantu kufuneka bathethe ngezinto ezisikhathazayo kunye / okanye, kule meko, ezisilimazayo. Thetha nabantu obathandayo; Basenokungakuqondi, kodwa ubuncinci baya kuba nawe.
• Zama ukuba ungabi wedwa ixesha elide kude kube uyaphiliswa: Ukoyisa usizi xa indlu ingenanto, kunye / okanye apho ungaze uhambe uyokudibana nosapho okanye abahlobo, kunokuba ngamava abuhlungu kakhulu.

Ndineekati ezimbini kwaye enye isweleke, njani ukujongana nayo?

Xa behlala ngaphezu kwekati enye kwaye enye iyafa, ezinye ziya kuqonda ngokuthe ngcembe. Ngokuchanekileyo, kwi-2019 ikati yam uBenji yaqhutywa ngaphezulu (ukusukela ngala mhla andivumeli namnye kwabathathu abasaphilayo, nangona bahlala kwindawo ethe cwaka edolophini). Wayeneminyaka emihlanu.

Bonke abanye baqonda kwangoko ukuba ikhona into eyenzekileyo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba ezi fonts ziyakwazi ukuliqonda igama labo nelabo bahlala nabo. Ngaphandle koko, bayazi kakuhle xa singonwabanga.

Ngokuhlwa kwango-Matshi 30 waloo nyaka, imeko-bume yekhaya yaguquka. Iikati zahlala ecaleni kwam, zahlikihla kwimilenze yam, kulungile, bezikunye nam. Bug, oqhele ukuba novalo kakhulu, khange andibuze ukuba ndidlale. Kwakungekho mzuzu. Ngosuku olulandelayo hayi, okanye olulandelayo.

Ndikuxelela yonke le nto kuba enye ikati okanye iikati ziya kulwa nawe. Ngendlela yabo. Banokurhoxa kancinci, bayeke ukudlala, okanye baphulukane nomdla wokutya kancinci. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kufuneka uqhubeke ngesiqhelo, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba bayatya. Amakati anokuhamba iintsuku ezimbini engatyanga (ayisiyonto yawo, kodwa ayizukubi kakhulu ukuba basela amanzi ubuncinci), kodwa ukuba usuku lwesithathu lufikile kwaye bengabonisi ukuba bafuna ukondla, musa ukuthandabuza ugqirha wezilwanyana.

Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku likuncede ukuba wazi into onokuyenza xa ikati isifa kunye nendlela yokumelana nelahleko yayo.

Inkuthazo enkulu.