Xa ikati yethu inenkunkuma, okanye xa sifumana ikatana eshiywe esitratweni, enye yamathandabuzo okuqala esihlaselayo kukwazi ukuba yindoda okanye ibhinqa, akunjalo? Ngamanye amaxesha akukho lula kakhulu ukuyazi, kodwa Sukubanexhala.
Siza kuthetha ngeli xesha malunga ungayixela njani ukuba ikati yindoda okanye ibhinqa, ukuze ukusukela ngoku uye uyazi indlela yokwahlula enye kwenye.
Wazi njani ukuba yikati okanye ikati?
Iikati ezisegadini, enye ekhohlo kwaye enye iphakathi ibafazi, kwaye i-panther yindoda.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuthatha ikatana ngononophelo, ebeka phezulu ukuze ukwazi ukujonga amalungu esini, kunye nomngxuma. Ke ungabavavanya ngcono kunokuba bebe kwicala. Unayo? Ke masidlulele kwinyathelo elilandelayo.
Inkangeleko yangaphandle yendawo yesini
Ikati eyindoda
Ukuba ikati yakho yindoda, uya kubona ukuba amalungu ayo esini ngasemva kwe-anus, kodwa phakathi kwawo kukho ukwahlukana, ibulge encinci: amasende. Ukuba uboya bakho busemncinci kakhulu, awuyi kuyithanda incanca, kuba incinci kakhulu kwaye ikwangaphakathi. Ke, Xa uyibona, uyakwahlula imingxunya emibini emincinci: umngxuma okule ndawo ingasentla, kufutshane nesiseko somsila, kunye nelo lobudoda, lahlulwe njengoko besitshilo kumatyhalarha.
Ikati yebhinqa
Iikati zahlulwe kwiikati ikakhulu ngenxa yokuba asiyi kubona nayiphi na into. I-anus ikufutshane nesiseko somsila, kwaye isezantsi isithuba sangasese, esibonakala ngathi sinomtya.
Nangona kunjalo, ngalo lonke ixesha unamathandabuzo kungcono ukuba ulinde ukuba uhambelane Iiveki ze6 indala. Ukusukela ngoko siya kubona ngoko nangoko ukuba yindoda okanye ibhinqa, njengoko inamalungu esini akhule ngakumbi, kuba inqanaba lokuzala lingaqala kwangethuba: kwiinyanga ezi-5-6. Ukuba awufuni ukuzala, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ucoce okanye ungabinayo iikati, zombini eyindoda neyasetyhini.
Umbala wengubo
Oku kwiikati ezinombala omnye akuyi kukunceda ukuba uyazi ukuba yindoda okanye ibhinqa, kuba ukuba kukho umahluko oku kuncinci, akunakuphikiswa. Kodwa ukuba i-brindle okanye i-tricolor, iya kuba luncedo.
Ikati eyindoda
Umbala weenwele zeekati (kokubini amadoda nabasetyhini) awuchazwanga ngokupheleleyo de kudlule iinyanga ezimbalwa (kuxhomekeke kuhlobo, inokuba malunga neenyanga ezi-5-6 okanye ukuya kuthi ga kunyaka), kodwa xa ubona uninzi lwamawele kuyo yonke ubomi kancinci kancinci uyayiqonda lonto umbala weenkunzi umnyama.
Ikati yebhinqa
USasha, nge-16 kaSeptemba, 2016
Ukuba ikati imnyama, iikati… ayicacanga 🙂. Kwenzeka ntoni ewe ine-hue ekhaphukhaphu kancinci, kodwa hayi kakhulu. Ayisiyonto inokuthi yahlulwe ngokulula nokuba ungumnakwenu omncinci ukuyithelekisa nayo.
Ubungakanani bomzimba kunye 'neejika'
Ikati eyindoda
Ikati eyindoda ithande ukuba nkulu kwaye inzima kunekati, enomzimba oqinileyo, obalekayo. Kungenxa yokuba kwindalo, okanye ukuba ebehlala enkululekweni, ngoyena mntu ujongene nokukhusela umhlaba, lowo ulwayo-ukuba kunyanzelekile- namanye amadoda xa kukho ikati eshushu. Konke oku kufuna ukomelela kunye nomgaqo-siseko ophathekayo.
Ngaba iikati ezingamadoda zinazo iingono?
Nangona aziloncedo kuzo konke konke, ewe banayo. Ziyi-vestigial ingono. Indaleko isafuna ukuba iikati zibe nazo, njengamadoda, kuba zisenazo izakhi zofuzo ezinoxanduva lokuzenza kwaye akukho ngxaki kuzo.
Ikati yebhinqa
Ikati nayo inokuba yindawo enkulu kakhulu, kodwa ingaphezulu koxanduva lokuhoya iinjana. Ngesi sizathu, indalo, ngakumbi ukuvela kweekati, iwunike ngesiqu somzimba esinciphile, nesibukeka ngakumbi, enokuthakazelelwa nokuba ulusana kakhulu xa umthelekisa nomntakwabo omncinci.
Umntu
Into endizokuxelela yona ngokulandelayo yile yokuba iikati bendinazo ebomini bam bonke kwaye ndihlala nazo namhlanje (zizonke zingaphezulu kwe-20) zindifundisile, kwaye bendikufunda ngokwamaqela, iiforamu kunye neencwadi kwi isihloko. Inokuba iyinyani okanye ayiyonyani ngokukodwa kwikati yakho, kodwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ungayifumana inomdla okanye inomdla 🙂:
Ikati eyindoda
USasha (ngasekhohlo) noBenji ngoJuni 11, 2017.
Ikati sisilwanyana idla ngokuzimela ngakumbi kunekati. Ukuba ebephila ngokukhululeka, besizakubona ukuba uyasuka 'kwiqela lakhe' (masilibize ngokuba lusapho, olwenziwe ziikati ezininzi kunye nabantwana babo, kwaye mhlawumbi nezinye iikati), kodwa xa kubuya ubuye.
Ngokwamava, ndiyakuqinisekisa oko banokuba ngabazali abagqwesileyo okanye abantakwenu. UBenji, osweleke nge-30 ka-Matshi ngo-2019, wayenyanisile kuSasha, oyikati esiyikhulisayo ngebhotile. Xa wayeselusana, wayehlala kwindawo ethile, kwaye uBenji wayehlala ecaleni kwakhe. Xa wafunda ukuhamba, kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke ukutsiba, babedlala yonke imihla. Banika uthando olukhulu omnye komnye.
Kwaye yayiyikati eyindoda, ishushu.
Kungenxa yoko, Ndicinga ukuba ayilunganga into yokuba amadoda ayingobantu okanye ayizondelelo. Banokuba njalo, kunjalo, kodwa akufuneki. Kukho uboya obunothando kakhulu, bude buxhomekeke, kwaye bakho nabanye abanganyanisekanga.
Ikati yebhinqa
Ikati Ihlala inothando ngakumbi, kwaye ukuba ibihlala nabantu, inokuba yimfuno enkulu yothando. Ngokubanzi, izolile kunekati, kodwa ukuba kukho imfuneko iya kuyikhusela imidlwane yayo kulo naluphi na utshaba (nokuba lolunye uboya okanye umntu).
Unobuqili, kwaye ukrelekrele kakhulu (lumka, anditsho ukuba ikati ayisiyiyo kuba injalo, kodwa ikati ikwanjalo kufuneka ishiye amantshontsho ayo kwindawo ekhuselekileyo ngelixa esiya kuzingela).
Ikati lendoda okanye lebhinqa, leliphi elingcono?
Zombini. Ngokwenyani, ngaphandle kwamalungu esini kunye neenkcukacha ezithile (umbala weenwele, ubungakanani bomzimba kunye nobunzima, njl. Njl.) Kunzima ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi ikati eya kuba nayo xa indala. Zisuka nje kwasekuqaleni kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba injana zonke zi-rowdy; ngaphezulu kunabanye, kodwa de babe nonyaka ubudala akunakwenzeka ukuba bazi ukuba baya kuba njani ebudaleni.
Ke ngoko, ukuba ufuna ukwamkela umntu oneempawu ezichaziweyo, ungathandabuzi kwaye ugoduse ikati endala okanye esele ikhulile, kuba abo bayikhathaleleyo banokukuxelela indlela eziphatha ngayo, kwaye ke unokufumana umbono. (kunjalo, cinga ukuba ngaphandle kwexesha elidlulileyo abanalo, into eqhelekileyo kukuba xa sele beqhelile kuwe nakwikhaya labo elitsha, bafumana ukuzithemba kwaye mhlawumbi bayaphuma kancinci okanye badlale).
Ngaba iluncedo kuwe?