Ikati nganye, njengabantu, inesimilo sayo: ezinye ziyahlalisana kwaye ziyathandana ukusukela ngexesha lokuzalwa kwazo, kodwa nangona kunjalo zikhona ezinye ezingakuthandiyo ukuphathwa okanye ukutotelwa kakhulu. Ezi zihlala zibizwa ngokuba "kukungafani noluntu" okanye "surly," kodwa inyani kukuba kunjalo. Ayikuko ukuba abafuni kuhoywa, kodwa yile zizilwanyana ezibonisa uthando abazivayo kwabanye abantu ngezinye iindlela.
Ngelixa kukho ezinoboya ezikhawulezayo ukuza kuwe zicela i-caresses kunye ne-pampering, kukho abanye abaya kuphumelela uthando lwakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ke ukuba awazi uyikhathalele njani ikati engathandani, landela ezi ngcebiso.
Ikati engathandaniyo ifuna ukhathalelo olufanayo nolo. Kodwa kuya kufuneka sinike ingqalelo engakumbi kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo Ukuchonga imiboniso eyahlukileyo yothando. Umzekelo, enye yeekati zam, egama linguSusty, ayikaze ibonakalise uthando. Nangona kunjalo, usixelela ukuba uyasixabisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo:
- Xa ungena emnyango, into yokuqala uhlala uyenza sibulise (Meows). Kwaye ukuba umntu umphendula, uyamphendula.
- Ndihlala "ndithetha" kakhulu naye, ndizama ukulinganisa imowows yakhe, kwaye ngokufanayo, undiphendula: i-Meow. Zifutshane, ziphantse zangumjelo wamanzi.
- Vala amehlo ngalo lonke ixesha simnika into ayithandayo, uphawu olungenakuphazeleka lokuba uyonwabile yingqwalaselo esimnika yona ngalo mzuzu.
- Ebusuku, nokuba ungathini "yiza", akazukuya. Kodwa ukuba ufuna into kuwe Uya kukhwela phezulu.
Njengoko ubona, ikati engathandiyo ingaba ngumhlobo okhethekileyo. Kufuneka nifumane indlela yokuqonda omnye nomnye (ngokucacileyo, ngaphandle kokungxola okanye nantoni na enjalo). Ke, ukuyikhathalela kunye nokwenza ubudlelane bube ngcono kakhulu, ingcebiso yam yile chitha ixesha nekati yakho. Yazi. Khangela ukuba ungumntu onjani, kwaye umvuze ngokuziphatha kakuhle.
Ke nobabini niya kwakha ubuhlobo obunyulu nobuyinyaniso obuya kuhlala iminyaka emininzi kakhulu 😉.