Ikati inoboya obuthathaka kakhulu Unokuba nobunzima ukuba uzifumana ukwimeko ongazange waya kuyo ngaphambili, okanye ukuba kukho into eyenziweyo kuwe ongayithandiyo. Thina, njengabakhathaleli bakhe, kuya kufuneka senze konke okusemandleni ukumenza azole kwakhona, kodwa… yintoni?
Ukwazi indlela yokunceda ikati eyoyikayo kuya kusinceda ukuba sizole. Ngoko ke, kwi Noti Gatos Siza kukucacisela ngento onokuyenza ukuba umhlobo wakho uyoyika kwaye / okanye uziva esoyika.
Ukwazi njani ukuba ikati yam iyoyika?
Kuxhomekeke kwimeko okuyo, unokubonisa le miqondiso ilandelayo Oko kuyakwenza ukuba sikrokre ukuba imeko yengqondo yomhlobo wethu ayisiyiyo le siyifunayo:
- Ineenwele ezinwele
- Ukugquma
- Hlutha
- Amehlo avulekile
- Ukufihla kunye / okanye ukurhoxa ebantwini
Ityala ngalinye lahlukile. Ikati ephosakeleyo ayiyi kuba noloyiko olufanayo nolo luhlala lunxibelelana nabantu kwaye, umzekelo, kugqirha wezilwanyana. Kuya kufuneka uvavanye imeko kwaye uthathe amanyathelo kwimeko nganye kwaye uthathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo.
Ungayinceda njani ikati eyoyikayo?
Ikati ifihla iipheromones kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zomzimba wayo: izidlele, iiphedi zepaw, umchamo. Kukho ezinye ngokukodwa ezenzeka ezidleleni zakho ezikunceda uzive ulungile. Ke ngoko, akukho nto ilunge ngaphezu kokunceda uboya oboyikisayo kunokusebenzisa imveliso eyenziwe ngeepheromones zokwenziwa ezineempembelelo ezifanayo nezendalo, ezinje Kude kude.
Ukuba asinayo indlela yokuyiphumeza, akukho xhala. Kukho ezinye izinto esinokuzenza ukukunceda:
- Dlala naye: ukuba yikati enempilo entle, kuyacetyiswa kakhulu ukuba uyibonise into yokudlala, umzekelo, intambo, kwaye uyimeme ukuba ayibambe ngokuyihambisa kwelinye icala iye kwelinye.
- Mjonge ngothando-Ukutswina ngamehlo yenye yeendlela zokwazisa ukuba ungasithemba. Ukuba wenza okufanayo, sinokuqiniseka ukuba uyasithanda kwaye uyasithemba.
- Thetha kancinci kuye: Usenokungasiqondi, kodwa uya kusiqonda isandi selizwi. Ke ngoko, ukuba sithetha nawe ngokungathi besithetha nosana lomntu okanye umntwana, ngobunono, ngelizwi elonwabileyo nelizolileyo lelizwi, siya kukunceda uzive ungcono.
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