Ufuna ikati yakho. Uyampompa yonke imihla, uqiniseke ukuba unakho konke akufunayo (mhlawumbi nangaphezulu) kwaye wonwabile. Kodwa uyazi ukuba nini kwaye njani ukuvuza ngokwenene ikati? Hayi, impendulo echanekileyo "ayisoloko", nangona inokukumangalisa 😉.
Njengentsapho yakhe, kuya kufuneka umkhathalele njengoko kufanelekile, kodwa ukumnika amabhaso rhoqo akulunganga kuba angajika abe sisikhohlakali esiya kuhlala sifuna ukufumana into ayifunayo, kwaye ngubani onokuba nomsindo xa engakwenzi oko. Ke, Liliphi elona xesha lilungileyo?
Unika nini amabhaso / imivuzo?
Ikati sisilwanyana esikrelekrele kakhulu esichitha inxalenye entle yosuku ukusijonga. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uyazi kakuhle xa sisamkela ngakumbi, oko kukuthi, xa enokusicela ukuba siqwalaselwe esazi kwangaphambili ukuba uza kuyifumana nini, kwaye xa singaphantsi kakhulu. Ke, kubalulekile ukuba sicacelwe malunga nokuba siza kukuvuza nini kwaye nini. Ke, umzekelo, into endiyenzayo ndibanika amabhaso kunye nembuyekezo kwezi meko kuphela:
- Xa kuye kwakho umzuzu woxinzelelo (amatheko, imibhiyozo, okanye naluphi na uhlobo lomnyhadala ekhaya), ukuze balibale ngawo kwaye baphinde bazole.
- Xa bekhululekile kakhulu ebhedini okanye esofeni.
- Ndimele nini ukuyeka umdlalo oba krwada (Kuqala ndenza ingxolo ukubaphazamisa, kwaye imizuzu embalwa ndibanika imbasa).
Zeziphi iintlobo zamabhaso / zemivuzo ezikhoyo?
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi: ukutya okumanzi, amashwamshwam, iithoyi, iicaresses. Kuxhomekeka kwimeko, kuya kufuneka ukhethe enye okanye enye: umzekelo, ukubazolisa emva komzuzu woxinzelelo, ungabanika ukutya okulula; ukubanika unyango xa bezolile, ii-caresses ezimbalwa kunye ne-cuddling; kwaye emva kokuvumela imizuzu embalwa ukuba idlule emva komdlalo ombi, ukutya okumanzi kwaba "magorha" mabini.
Ngapha koko, ukuba unamathandabuzo ungasifumana ngaphandle kwengxaki. 🙂