Ngaba ngumbono olungileyo ukunika iikati? Umbuzo unokuvela xa usuku lokuzalwa lomntu usithandayo lusondela, okanye xa sifuna ukunika umntu into ekhethekileyo. Impendulo iya kuxhomekeka ekubeni ingaba lo mntu kuthethwa ngaye angathanda ukuhlala nomntu onoboya, kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, nokuba angakwazi na ukukhathalela isilwanyana.
Kuya kufuneka sicinge kakhulu malunga noku, kuba sithetha ngesidalwa esiphilayo esiya kufuna ukhathalelo olusisiseko ukuze sonwabe. Ngelishwa, amaxesha amaninzi la mabali aphela kakubi.
ISpain lilizwe laseYurophu apho izilwanyana zishiywa kakhulu. Unyaka, kwaye ngokwe kufunda lwenziwa yi-Affinity Foundation, kwi-2014, unyaka malunga ne-140.000 yezinja kunye neekati ziphelela kwizindlu zokufeketha okanye zokufihla, oko kuthetha ukuba inja enye okanye ikati nganye kwimizuzu emi-4, kwaye ngama-44% kuphela amkelweyo. Kwabaseleyo abangama-56%, uninzi lwabo babengenathamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba baphelele ezindlwaneni zezindlu zenyathi babethelelwa; abanye basakhangela ikhaya. Oku kunokuthintelwa, hayi kuphela ngokubulala iintsholongwane (kokubini amadoda namabhinqa), kodwa nangokuthintela ukunika izilwanyana xa ungaqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo ngento oyenzayo okanye into ozimisele ukuyenza.
Isilwanyana, kule meko ikati, luxanduva. Oku kuzibophelela kufumaneka kumzuzu wokuqala ufika ekhaya, kwaye kufuneka ugcinwe kubomi bakho bonke. Kuyacetyiswa kuphela ukuba unike ikati xa umntu efuna ukukhathalela isilwanyana. Kodwa akwanelanga ukuba uyabathanda okanye ufuna ukubakhathalele, kodwa kananjalo kufuneka ubenakho.
Baninzi abantwana abacela inja okanye ikati kubazali babo, bagqibela ngokuba nayo, kodwa emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa bayayeka ukuyinaka. Ndingomnye wabo bacinga ukuba, ukuba sinethuba lokukhula kunye nesilwanyana, sigqibelele, kodwa okoko nje loo mhlobo, elo qabane elinoboya ube nathi kude kube sekupheleni.
Kungale ndlela kuphela, ndiyacinga, esiya kuthi senze isipho sethu samkelwe kakuhle.