Ufika ekhaya, kwaye nje xa uvula umnyango ufumana ikati yakho ebesele ikulindile. Wenza ntoni? Ngaba uyambulisa kwaye yile nto; Okanye uyayithatha uyitye ngokwanga? Uya kukhetha ukhetho lwesibini, kodwa ... uyazi njani ukuba uyafuna ngokwenene ukuba umwole?
Njengoko iintsuku zihamba, kwaye ngakumbi iiveki, abantu bayayiqonda imiqondiso yoboya bethu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha sinokwenza iimpazamo. Ke, Ungayanga njani ikati ngexesha elifanelekileyo?
Qaphela ulwimi lwabo lomzimba
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ikati engafuni ukutyibilika ayizukubuza. Nangona icacile, ngamanye amaxesha siyakholelwa- okanye sifuna ukukholelwa- ukuba uboya bethu bufuna ukuba simnike uthando ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye loo nto ayifanelanga ukuba yinyani. Nokuba oyena mntu udibanayo, onobuhlobo nothando emhlabeni kufuneka achithe ixesha elincinci "ahlukene" (hayi kuphela) kusapho. Umzekelo, xa simbona ethatha isiqaqa kwelinye icala lesofa, kungenxa yokuba ufuna ukubakhona hayi ecaleni kwethu. Oku akuthethi ukuba akasithandi, into yokuba ngalo mzuzu ufuna ukulala apho.
Kodwa, Wazi njani xa ufuna ukutofelwa? Ewe, ngenxa yoko kuya kufuneka sijonge izinto ezininzi:
- Amehlo akhe aya kuba mnandi kakhulu, usenokude avule kwaye avale amehlo kancinci kancinci njengombulelo kuthi.
- Ukuba imile, iya kuphakanyiswa umsila kwaye ayiyi kuwushukumisa, okanye iya kuwushukumisa kancinci kancinci; xa sihleli, asiyi kulibala.
- Izinwele zakho ziya kuhlala zikwindawo yesiqhelo; Oko kukuthi, ayizukuphithizela.
- Inokukhwela ethangeni nakweyiphi na into encinci -ukuzithandela okanye ukungazibandakanyi- esikwenzayo.
Mlande ngokuchanekileyo
Ngoku siyazi xa ikati ifuna ukutotosa, kodwa Uzibamba njani ezingalweni zakho? Kwiindawo ezininzi singafunda ukuba kufuneka umthathe ngolusu phakathi kwamagxa nentloko, ngendlela efanayo naleyo wenziwa ngayo ngunina, kodwa andiyithandi loo nto, ngesizathu esilula sokuba abantu hayi iikati- okanye kule meko, iikati-. Kuyinyani ukuba ngezandla zethu sinokuba buthathaka kakhulu, kodwa sibe krwada kakhulu nokuba ayiyonjongo yethu leyo. Ukongeza, ikati endala ayifanelanga ukubanjwa ngale ndlela, kuba singamenzakalisa.
Ukuqala koku, Ndikucebisa ukuba ubambe zombini iikati kunye neekati ezindala ngale ndlela:
- Into yokuqala ukuyiphakamisa emhlabeni, kwaye oku kufuneka ubeke izandla zozibini phantsi kwemilenze yayo yangaphambili, emakhwapheni.
- Emva koko, ixhomekeke esifubeni, ibeka imilenze yayo yangaphambili ekuphakameni kwamagxa ethu.
- Okulandelayo, sehlisa isandla esinye ukuxhasa imilenze yangasemva, ngelixa ngesinye sibambe.
- Okokugqibela, simanga kunye nokumthoba. 🙂
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