Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba neekati ezimbini ezihlala endlwini enye? Ewe kunjalo, kodwa luthotho nje lwezinto ezithathelwa ingqalelo, ezinje ngomlingiswa kunye neemfuno zomntu ngamnye kubo, kuba kungenjalo, endaweni yokuphucula ukuhlala kunye, iziphumo ezichaseneyo ziya kufezekiswa: ukuyenza ibe mbi ngakumbi ... kwaye a okuninzi.
I-feline sisilwanyana esineendawo ezihlala kuzo, oko kuthetha ukuba ukuba iziva isoyikiswa okanye ingonwabanga ngobukho bobunye ubushushu iya kuba ndlongondlongo kuyo. Into ekufuneka siyenzile kukunciphisa loo mvakalelo yokungonwabi ukuze, kancinci kancinci, uyamkele. Kodwa kanjani? Ngalo nto Ndiyakumema ukuba ufunde eli nqaku apho ndiza kukunika iingcebiso ezininzi zokuba neekati ezimbini Ndihlala phantsi kophahla olunye.
Dibana neekati
Ukuze yonke into ihambe kakuhle kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ikati nganye nganye. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba amaxesha amaninzi sithatha ikhaya lesibini lesibini ngaphandle kokuzazisa ngokuchanekileyo, okanye ngaphandle kokuthatha ixesha lokuqonda ikati ebesinayo. Umzekelo, yile nto abo bantu bafumana ikatana elahliweyo okanye elahlekileyo benza / benza okuninzi kwaye, ngaphandle kokuncinci okanye okungaphantsi, bathathe isigqibo sokuyigcina ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba, mhlawumbi, eso sigqibo asisiyothanda iqabane labo elinoboya.
Yinto endinokuyiqonda: Ndiyenzile ngokwam malunga nezihlandlo ezibini okanye ezithathu. Ndibe nethamsanqa lokuba izinto zihambe kakuhle ekugqibeleni kwaye baba ngabahlobo, kodwa ukuqala bekungekho lula kwaphela. Kwaye kanye ngenxa yeso sizathu ndifuna ukukunceda ukuze ungenzi iimpazamo ezifanayo endazenzayo ngala mhla. Ke ngaphambi kokwenza nantoni na, Kuya kufuneka uthathe ixesha ukuze wazi i-felines, zombini le sele unayo kunye naleyo ungathanda ukuba nayo. Fumanisa ukuba uyathandana na, oko kukuthi, ukuba ungomnye wabo bonwabileyo kukuhlala nabantu okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uyikati eneentloni.
Ukwazi ukuba kunjani kuya kukunceda wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Yenza intshayelelo kancinci kancinci
Ngendlela efanayo ekungekho mntu angathanda ukuba nawuphina umntu ongaziwayo aqale ukubanika ii-hugs ezininzi-ubuncinci usuku lokuqala-ukwazisa ikati enye kwenye ngendlela enoburharha inokuphela kukukhalaza, ukukrwela kunye / okanye ukuluma. Ukuyiphepha, kucetyiswa kakhulu ukuba uqale ngokufuya »entsha» ngelixa sisesikhumbeni okanye kwindawo yokuhlala izilwanyana. Ke, into esiza kuyenza kukumithisa uboya babo nevumba lomzimba wethu, into eza kunceda ikati "endala" ukuba izole.
Emva koko, siyakuyiphatha kumphathi siyigoduse, apho siyishiya egumbini kunye nebhedi yayo, umkhombe kunye nesondli, ibhokisi yesanti kunye nezinto zokudlala. Ukongeza, siya kuyigubungela ibhedi ngengubo -okanye ilaphu elithambileyo elithambileyo ukuba kusehlotyeni okanye kushushu kakhulu-, kwaye siya kwenza okufanayo nebhedi yekati »endala». Ukususela ngosuku olulandelayo, siyakutshintsha iingubo okanye amalaphu iintsuku ezi-2 okanye ezi-3 ukuze baqonde kwaye balamkele ivumba lelinye. Ukuba sibona ukuba bayarhona okanye bayabhonga, kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha baya kuziva bekhululekile.
Ngosuku lwesine okanye lwesihlanu siyakuthatha ikati "entsha" siyikhuphe egumbini simyeke abone "endala" ngesithintelo ekungavumba kunye nokuchukumisa bobabini. Kuyafana: ukuba bayagquma okanye bayafutha, okanye nokuba iinwele zabo ziyaphela, kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Siza kukushiya unje, 'kunye kodwa ungaxutywanga' de nibe nobabini niqala ukuziva ukhululekile. Kamva, Kuya kuba ngumcimbi wokususa isithintelo kuphela kwaye uqale ukubanyamekela Ngokuqinisekileyo besifuna ukwenza ukusukela kusuku lokuqala: ukunika uthando oluninzi kubo bobabini ngaxeshanye.
Sukuyityeshela "indala" ikati endaweni ye "entsha"
Ikati "endala" yeyona ibikade ikunye nathi ixesha elide, iye yabelana ngezihlandlo ezimbalwa okanye ezininzi kakhulu. Ukufika kwekati yesibini kusapho akufuneki kuthethe "ukushiywa" kwekati esele ihleli endlwini. Inyaniso, Ukuba sifuna ukuhlala kunye kulunge kuwo wonke umntu, into ekufuneka siyenzile kukunika uthando oluninzi kubo bonke abantu ngokulinganayo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba bonwabile, bazifumana zonke iimfuno zabo.
Ukuba kukho abantwana, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubenza bakuqonde oku, kuba bathambekele ekuqwalaseleni kakhulu ikati "entsha" kunekati "endala", kuba kubo yinto entsha; kwaye ukuba 'ikati endala' ibuthathaka kakhulu kunokuba nzima ngakumbi ukuyamkela ikati 'entsha'.
Bayeke babe ziikati
Ukuba neekati ezimbini ekhaya kuthetha ukuba kukho izilwanyana ezimbini ezithanda ukunyuka kwiindawo eziphakamileyo, eziza kuphawula indawo yazo ngezikhonkwane zazo, eziya kufuna ukwenza ububi kwaye, ewe, zilale nosapho. Ke ngoko, baya kuyidinga ukukrwela, iibhedi, izitya zokusela, ii-feeders kunye nezinto zokudlala ewe, kodwa kunye nekhaya elinokubakho kwaye baziphathe ngale ndlela bayiyo: iikati, kuphela kunye neekati.
Ngoko ke, ungathandabuzi ukusebenzisa lonke ixesha olichitha kunye nabo, kuba ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba ukuhlala nezi zilwanyana lelinye lawona mava amnandi esinokuba nawo njengabantu. 🙂