Sithanda iikati kwaye siyabathanda abo bahlala nathi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha senza iimpazamo ezinokuthintela isilwanyana ukuba sijabule. Kwaye kungenxa yokuba ixesha elide bekukholelwa ukuba babenengcwangu kakhulu, bezimele, benesithukuthezi, okanye ukuba naxa benze into engalunganga kungenxa yokuba bafuna ukukhubekisa umntu.
Ngethamsanqa, kancinci kancinci siyaqonda ukuba kukho iindlela ezingcono zokunyanga. Nangona kunjalo, ndicinga ukuba kusabaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ziziphi iimpazamo xa ukhulisa ikati ekhaya. Ngale ndlela, uya kukwazi ukuphepha ukwenza kubo.
Ukumohlukanisa nonina esemncinci kakhulu
Ndiyazi. Usana lwekati yibhola exabisekileyo yoboya. Kodwa ukuba "ibhola yoboya" idinga unina kunye nabantakwayo kwiinyanga zayo zokuqala ezimbini zobomi (kwaye ngcono ukuba zintathu). Ngelo xesha, iya kufunda ukuziphatha njengekati, ukudlala, kunye nokutya nokusela kwisondlo / isiselo ngokubukela umzali wayo.
Ukuba nahlukana ngokukhawuleza kakhulu, usenokuphela uneengxaki zokuziphatha.. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba simgodusa nenyanga okanye ngaphantsi, akayi kukwazi ukuba yinkazana kuba akayi kuba nomntu wokumfundisa. Enyanisweni, kungenxa yesi sizathu ukuba kuyacetyiswa ukuba kuthathwe abantwana ababini abazalwayo kunokuba abe mnye, kodwa kuphela ukuba baneenyanga ezimbini ubudala okanye ngaphezulu.
Kwimeko apho sidibana a Inkwenkwana eyinkedama, okona kulungileyo bekuya kuba kukufuna ukumkhulisela umntwana, kodwa ekubeni oku kudla ngokuba nzima kakhulu, siya kusoloko sinokhetho lokuthabatha omnye ukuze sihlale simanyene.
Musa ukumvumela ukuba abe yikati
Xa simgodusa kufuneka sicace gca ngeemfuno zakhe. Koko kukuthi, Kufuneka sazi ukuba ikati iyakrwempa, iyaluma, iyatsiba, i-meows, kwaye inomlingiswa wayo.. Eyona mpazamo inkulu kum kukuzama ukulungisa indlela abaziphatha ngayo ukuze ilingane neyethu.
Ukuba asifuni ukuba atshabalalise ifanitshala, umzekelo, into esinokuyenza kukumnika izinto zokukrwempa okanye anokuzikrwela. Kufuneka simnike ezinye iindlela ukuze abenguye kwaye aphuhle njengoko eyiyo: inkazana. Akusekho okungaphantsi.
Mjonge njengomntu
Oku kuhambelana nenqaku elidlulileyo, kodwa makhe sithethe ngalo. Siyayithanda ikati, kwaye sifuna ukuyikhusela. Xa iyinjana ayinakuphepheka ukucinga ukuba ilusana, ngobuso bayo obumnandi kunye nezimbo zakhe ezichukumisayo. Kwaye xa ekhula, siqhubeka simbona "njengomntwana wethu." kwaye kulungile kodwa iba yimpazamo kamsinya nje sakuba siyinxibile, okanye kamsinya nje sicinga ukuba yenza okuthile ukuze sicaphuke. I-feline ayifuni iimpahla (ngaphandle kokuba ikati engenaboya ehlala kwindawo ebandayo, kunjalo).
Ukuba uyagodola, eyona nto ingcono sinokuyenza kukumyeka angqengqe ecaleni kwethu, okanye alale phantsi kwezigqubuthelo. Kodwa ukuyinxiba akunangqiqo, kuba kuya kukwenza uzive ungakhululekanga kakhulu. Kwelinye icala, ikati ayikwazi ukwenza izinto ezisikhathazayo. Ukuba, ngokomzekelo, uchamela ebhedini, okanye usilume, kuyimbopheleleko yethu ukufumanisa isizathu. El uxinzelelo, ukuxhalaba, nokudandatheka, zikwayinto eqhelekileyo kwiikati, ngakumbi ezo zihlala kwiindawo apho zingabonelelwanga ngononophelo ezifunekayo.
Ayikuniki ukhathalelo oludingayo
Ukususela kumzuzu wokuqala sikwamkela, sizibophelele ekukukhathaleleni ubomi bakho bonke. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka simse kugqirha wezilwanyana ngalo lonke ixesha kufuneka simgonye, simenze amayeza eentshulube, simthene kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha simkrokrela ukuba uyagula okanye kukho into ebuhlungu. Ukongezelela, kufuneka simnike ukutya okusemgangathweni kwekati, kunye nokumnika amanzi acocekileyo imihla ngemihla. Kodwa oku akuphelelanga apho.
Ikati eyonwabileyo ayifuni kuphela ukuba iimfuno zabo zomzimba zidibene, kodwa kunye neengqondo zabo. kwaye ngenxa yoko Simele sichithe ixesha ukuze simazi. ukwazi ukuba nini kwaye ufuna ukuphululwa njani, yintoni ithoyizi ayithandayo, phi kunye nabani na afuna ukulala naye ... Zonke ezi nkcukacha ziya kuba luncedo olukhulu ekwakheni ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye obuxabisekileyo kunye nekati yethu ethandekayo.
mamkele ngomdla
Ekugqibeleni, impazamo enkulu kakhulu xa samkela ikati ngokukhawuleza. »Unyana wam ufuna enye», »Ndingathanda ukuba nenye yolu hlobo», »Ndiza kunika udadewethu ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa»,... Ngokuqinisekileyo ezinye zezi zivakala ziqhelekile kuwe. Kubuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa uninzi lwaba "iikati zesipho" okanye "iikati ze-whim" ziphelela esitratweni ngokukhawuleza ukuba zingasenabhola ezincinci zoboya.
Kuhle xa unika umntu omaziyo ukuba uza kuyinyamekela kwaye ayikhathalele ubomi bayo bonke, kodwa masiyiphephe ngokwenene le nto. Masiyeke ukulahlwa kwezilwanyana. Ukuba ufuna ukuhlala nenyamakazi, qala ulinganise okuhle kunye nokubi, kuba ibandakanya uxanduva kunye nokuzinikela okuya kutshintsha ubomi bakho.. Ndiyathemba ukuba iyeyona nto ingcono.