Nangona ixhaphake kakhulu kwizinja zabasetyhini, iikati zinokukhulelwa nasengqondweni. Xa izilwanyana zingenayo i-neutered okanye inzalo, ngalo lonke ixesha zishushu ziya kuzama ukuvelisa ngandlela zonke, kwaye ziya kwenza nantoni na - ndiyanyanzelisa, nokuba yeyiphi na - ukuyiphumeza, nokuba nobundlongondlongo okanye ngokuchaseneyo, ayizukubakho nosapho.
Kwimeko yabasetyhini, iihormoni ngamanye amaxesha zikwenza ucinge ukuba ziye zatshatiswa, kwaye zilindele iinjana, nangona oku kungeyonyani. Kodwa, Zithini iimpawu zokukhulelwa kwengqondo kwiikati? Kwaye yintoni enokwenziwa?
Iimpawu
Iimpawu zinokwahluka ukusuka kwenye ikati ukuya kwenye kwaye kuxhomekeke "kubukhali" bokukhulelwa kwengqondo. Abasetyhini banokubonakala ngathi bakhulelwe njengoko benokuthi bafumane utshintsho emzimbeni, njenge ukudumba kwesisu, ukwanda kubungakanani besifuba, ... kukho ezinye zivelisa ubisi. Kodwa kukwakho notshintsho lwengqondo, olubaluleke kakhulu:
- Ukwamkelwa kwesinye isilwanyana okanye isilwanyana esinezixhobo esiya kuziphatha njengenjana.
- Ukulungisa indawo yokuhanjiswa.
Yintoni oyenzayo?
Ewe, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba ayisosifo, kodwa kukungalingani kwehomoni. Kumatyala athambileyo, apho ikati ifumana nje utshintsho kwezengqondo kodwa ikhokelela kubomi obuqhelekileyo okanye obungaphantsi kwesiqhelo, kuya kufuneka kuphela ukususa isilwanyana esifakiweyo "asamkeleyo" kwaye siyakudlula. Ngoku, kwiimeko ezinzulu ngakumbi, apho ikati icinga ukuba ikhulelwe kwaye nomzimba wayo uyenza ukuba uyiqaphele, uzakufuna uncedo lwezilwanyana ngakumbi ukuba amabele avelisa ubisi, njengoko unokugula sisifo sokukrala kwebele.
Ngayiphi na imeko, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ukukhulelwa kwengqondo kwiikati kunokuthintelwa. Yayo, Ndikucebisa ukuba ube nomhlobo wakho othengelwe iinyanga ezi-6 ubudala (okanye isi-8 ukuba luhlobo olukhulu), ngaphambi kokuba afudumale kuqala. Ke ngekhe ukhathazeke 😉.