Xa sicinga ngoxinzelelo lokwahlukana, sihlala sicinga ngenja engaziyo okanye efuna ukuhlala yodwa kwaye ukuzama ukuzola, ihlafuna ifanitshala okanye iphose izinto xa ingekho nosapho. Kodwa iikati azifani kakhulu nazo: nazo kufuneka ikhatshwe lixesha elininzi.
Esi sifo sihlala sivela ngakumbi kumantshontsho akhuliswe ngokungekho mthethweni, oko kukuthi, lawo ebeziinkedama ngaphambi kokuba afikelele kubudala bokulunyulwa (ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kwenyanga ubudala), nangona nayiphi na ikati inokufumana ubunzima kuyo ngamanye amaxesha.
Uqhawulo-mtshato okanye ilahleko inokuba sisibetho esibi kumfazi, kangangokuba ingothusa abo babanga ukuba sisilwanyana esizimeleyo. Hayi, bantu, hayi, akusoloko kunje. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba ayikaze inxibelelane nabantu: ikati ehlala esitalatweni nayo inokumanya ukudibana okuqinileyo nabanye abohlobo lwayo. Ewe, ezi kati zilahlekileyo (ezibizwa ngokuba ziiferals) xa zijamelene nelahleko aziyi kutshabalalisa nantoni na, kodwa ziya kudlula kwinqanaba lokuzila.
Ungathini ukuba le feline ihlala nabantu? Ukuba ezinye zazo ziyanyamalala ebomini bakho, okanye ukuba uchitha ixesha elincinci nesilwanyana, kuya kufuneka usinike uthando oluninzi ukuze singaziva sisodwa kwaye siphephe ukuxhalaba.
Iimpawu zokuphazamiseka kwezi zilandelayo: ukudakumba, ukugabha, ukukrwela ifenitshala, ukuya ngasese kwitreyi (ebhedini okanye kwiingubo zomntu omthandayo), ukunyanzela, ukukhangela okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle.
Ayinakunyangeka kwaphela, kodwa zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukuzola xa kufuneka ibe yodwa:
- Beka umthi okrwemayo (okanye aliqela) kufutshane nefestile, okanye beka iishelfu ezininzi kwiindawo eziphakamileyo ezahlukeneyo nezilwanyana ezincinci ezifakwe kumtya.
- Thenga ibhola yokulinganisa uyigcwalise ngokutya ke kuya kufuneka ambethe kwaye afumane ibhaso lakhe.
- Shiya umabonwakude uvuliwe, ujonge kwisitishi sendalo. Izandi zezilwanyana eziza kuphuma ziya kukugcina uphazamiseka.
- Dlala umculo opholileyo. Ngale ndlela, uya kuzola.
- Shiya iithoyi zijikeleze indlu kwaye uzihambise yonke imihla uhlala uhlala ufumana into entsha.
Kwaye ukuba akakaphucuki, mthathe aye kugqirha wezilwanyana ukuze afumane unyango.