Unobangela woxinzelelo kwiikati

Okulusizi kukuba, ukudandatheka ayisiyonto nje yomntu. Iikati zethu esizithandayo zinokuziva ngale ndlela amaxesha ngamaxesha ebomini bazo. Usizi, ukungakhathali, ukuphelelwa ngumdla wokutya kunye nobunzima zezinye zeempawu eziza kuvela, kwaye baya kufuna uncedo oluninzi kuthi ukuze bachache.

Kodwa, Zithini izizathu zokudakumba kwiikati? Sele kuyiminyaka basixelela nge-nauseam yokuba bazimele, into esiqala ukuyibona ayisiyonyani ngokupheleleyo. Ke sinokwazi njani ukuba ngubani umthombo wokungonwabi kwakho?

Amakati anokuxinezeleka ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, ezona zixhaphakileyo zezi:

Ukugula kunye / okanye ukuguga

Ukuba bayagula kakhulu kwaye abakwazi nokushukuma, okanye ukuba badala kakhulu, banokuba noxinzelelo. Ndiziva ndibuthathaka, Banokususa umnqweno wokutya kwaye, ukuba kuyenzeka, baya kuchitha usuku ebhedini. Ukuba imeko iya isiba mandundu, oko kukuthi, ukuba isifo siya sisiba mandundu okanye ukuba ukonakala nokudakumba okubangelwa kukwaluphala kubalulekile, iikati zingayeka ukuzilungisa.

Ukwenza? Okokuqala kukho konke bayise kugqirha wezilwanyana ukwenzela ukuba, ukuba banazo naziphi na iingxaki zempilo, banokubekwa kunyango. Kanye ekhaya Kufuneka sibenabo kwigumbi elinobushushu obutofotofo, iibhedi zekati ezifanelekileyo ibekwe emhlabeni ukuze bangatsiba, imikhombe enamanzi amatsha nacocekileyo, imikhombe enokutya okuphezulu kunye neebhokisi zenkunkuma Kufuneka zibekwe kude kude nokutya kangangoko.

Ukongeza, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba masikhathalele ukuzicoca yonke imihla, Ukubadlulisa ngebrashi yohlobo lwekhadi ukususa iinwele ezifileyo kunye nokucoca amehlo abo ngegeyile ecocekileyo emanzi kunye nokufakwa kwe-chamomile (usebenzisa enye kwiso ngalinye). Kananjalo, ukuba sibona ukuba baqala ukungcola, sinokuzicoca ngeewipe ezimanzi zezilwanyana (musa ukuzisebenzisela iintsana ezingabantu njengoko zicaphukisa ulusu lweentaka).

Ukuba abatyi, singakunika umhluzi wenkukhu owenziwe ekhaya (awunambono), okanye iinkonkxa zokutya kwekati emanzi, ezinuka kakhulu kunokutya okomileyo, okuya kunceda ekuvuseleleni umdla wabo wokutya.

Ukufika kwelungu elitsha losapho

Iikati zizilwanyana ezikwimimandla ethile. Yonke imihla bachitha ixesha elininzi beshiya ixesha labo iipheromones kwifenitshala, kwiibhedi zabo, kuthi,… Xa usapho lusanda, ngakumbi ukuba elo lungu litsha sisilwanyana esinemilenze emine, badla ngokuziva besoyikiswa.

Ukwenza? Eyona nto ilungileyo yile bazise kancinci kancinci. Ukuba yikati entsha okanye inja, siya kuyigcina kwigumbi elinokutya, amanzi, ibhokisi yenkunkuma kunye nezinto zokudlala. Phezu kwebhedi, siza kubeka ingubo okanye itawuli, kwaye siya kwenza okufanayo kwiibhedi zeekati zethu »ezindala». Ngaphezulu kweentsuku ezi-4-5, siya kuzitshintsha ezi ngubo okanye iitawuli. Ngale ndlela bayakuqhela ivumba labanye.

Emva kwelo xesha, siza kuvumela ilungu elitsha ukuba libone iikati "ezindala" nganye nganye, ngokuqinisekileyo ngasemva kwesithintelo somntwana. Ukuba konke kuhamba kakuhle, oko kukuthi, ukuba azikho iinzame zobundlongondlongo kunye neekati, ngaphandle kokuthambisa, zibonisa umdla, sinokususa isithintelo. Ngaphandle koko, siza kubuyisa uboya obutsha egumbini kwaye sizame kwakhona ngengomso.

What if ngumntana lomntu? Siza kubasondeza. Ukuba bakhathalelwe kakuhle kwaye banalo lonke ugonyo lwabo, usana aluyi kuba sengozini. Ewe, akufuneki sibashiye bodwa.

Ewe kunjalo, njengabakhathaleli abanenkathalo kufuneka sinike ingqalelo elinganayo kuye wonke umntu ukuze kungabikho namnye kubo odandathekileyo.

Isondlo esibi

Siyinto esiyityayo. Oku kusebenza nakwiikati. Ezi zilwanyana zitya ukuba abaphakelwa ukutya okusemgangathweni banokuba nemimoya ephantsi. Ukuthintela oku, kuyacetyiswa kakhulu ukuba ubanike ukutya okungenazo iinkozo okanye iimveliso, kuba nangona zibiza kakhulu kunalezo zivela kwivenkile enkulu (ikhilo iphuma nge-4-5 euro), izibonelelo zininzi kwaye zahlukile:

• Amazinyo amhlophe, asempilweni kwaye omelele
• Ukukhula kakuhle kunye nophuhliso
• Iinwele ezimenyezelayo
• Ukwanda kwamandla
• Ukuphuculwa kwemood

Kwaye songa, kuba ngokuba nomxholo weeproteni zezilwanyana, abayi kufuna ukutya kakhulu ukuze banelise.

Ukuphulukana nomntu omthandayo

Ukuba babenobudlelwane obusondeleyo nomntu, inja, ikati okanye olunye uboya, banokuba nobunzima kwiiveki ezininzi okanye kwiinyanga, kwaye nakwiminyaka. Ndiza kukuxelela into: enye yeekati zam iyekile ukubonakala ekhaya. Udadewabo, uKeisha, wayehleli ekoneni ngosuku lokuqala. Bendingazokumkhangela, lonto yandothusa ngoba babesondelelene kakhulu. Ngelo xesha wayenganxibanga nentsimbi yomqala enethegi yesazisi, ke ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndiyibeke kuthintela ukuphulukana nayo naye.

Waziphatha ngendlela ebaxekileyo. Wanikina intloko ngapha nangapha, wazama ukundikrwempa,… kulungile. Kwakunzima ukuyibeka, nangona yayingekokokuqala ndiyibeka kuye. Kulapho ndaye ndabona khona ukuba, mhlawumbi, umntakwabo ubanjiwe ngentonga yabo bude bunentambo kwelinye icala. Inokuba kunjalo. Kwakuloo nyaka edolophini inkampani yayizinikele ekuchongeni iikati ezazisesitratweni.

Okwangoku, ndaya kufuna. Bendimkhumbula kakhulu… Kwezi nyanga sobabini noKeisha besinengxaki. Yakhe kunqabile ukutya, Kwakungashukumi. Uchithe imini ebhedini okanye esofeni. Wayengenomdla kumdlalo de kwaba semva kweenyanga ezi-3-4. Kodwa kwade kwafika iminyaka emibini emva kokufika kukaBenji wabuya wabuya umoya wakhe. Kuphela emva koko waba ngowakhe kwakhona, ikati edlalayo neyonakeleyo awayehlala eyiyo.

Ke ngoko, ukuba iikati zakho zilahlekelwe ngumntu omthandayo, eyona nto unokuyenza kukuqhubeka ngesiqhelo. Ukuba abavumi ukudlala, musa ukubanyanzela, kodwa ungabavumeli bahambe ngaphezulu kweentsuku ezimbini bengatyanga. Kancinci kancinci baya kuyifumana imimoya yabo.

Ukusilela kwesikhuthazi

Akukho nto ibuhlungu njengokubona iikati ezikruqulayo, zingenanto yokwenza imini yonke. Nangona banokuchitha iintsuku ezininzi ekhaya nokutya kunye namanzi, inyani kukuba imeko yabo ayizukulunga njengoko besinethemba. Ngoba? Kuba Abazimelanga kangako njengoko bafuna ukuba sikholwe.

Iikati soloko ucela ingqalelo kubanakekeli babo, kwaye ukuba abamameli, abanxibelelani noboya, into eza kwenzeka kukuba baya kuhlala neekati ezixinezelekileyo.

Yintoni oyenzayo? Chitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nabo. Akwanele ukuba kunye nabo kwigumbi elinye. Ukubenza bonwabe, kubalulekile ukuba sidlale nabo, mabaye kuthi xhwenene ecaleni kwethu ngelixa sibukele umabonakude okanye sifunda incwadi (okanye xa sileleyo), sibothuse amaxesha ngamaxesha ngento yokudlala esiza kuyisebenzisa kwangalo mini okanye ngeenkonkxa ezimanzi ukutya kwekati. Kungelo xesha kuphela apho sinokonwabela ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwabantu abasetyhini.

Ukuhamba

Utshintsho lwasekhaya kuhlala kungumthombo wovuyo kusapho lomntu, kodwa kwiikati ... Hayi kangako kwiikati. Baziva besondele kakhulu kwikhaya labokunye hamba ibenza kakhulu, uxinzelelo oluninzi.

Ukwenza? Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe izilwanyana uzise kwikhaya elitsha, Kuyacetyiswa kakhulu ukuba sibenabo kwigumbi elinayo yonke into oyifunayo (ukutya, amanzi, iibhedi, iibhokisi zesanti kunye nezinto zokudlala) side sigqibe ukuthwala zonke izinto.

Ukuba singxamile, njengaxa sisiya kwelinye ilizwe okanye isixeko kwaye sifuna ukushiya »indala» ikhaya lingenanto ngokukhawuleza, singathatha izinto zakho sizibeke kwigumbi kwindlu entsha, kwaye sigcine kubo apho kude kube kugqityiwe intshukumo.

Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku liluncedo kuwe 🙂.