Akukho mntu ufuna ukuba ubomi bekati buphele, kodwa into ebuhlungu kukuba sisilwanyana esiphila kancinci kunabantu. Ikhula kakhulu ngexeshana nje elifutshane, kangangokuba kunyaka nje omnye isuke ekubeni yinjana ethambileyo kwaye emnandi iye ekubeni ngumntu omkhulu, edlalayo, kodwa emdala.
Ngexesha afikelela kwiminyaka eli-10 ubudala, uthathwa ngokusemthethweni njengomdala. Kuza kwenzeka ntoni kuwe ukusukela ngoku? Masibone. Masazi ukuba zeziphi izigaba zokuguga kwiikati.
Nangona amanqanaba okwaluphala engenagama, siza kubona ukuba umhlobo wethu othandekayo uza kufumana uthotho lweenguqu ezinokubaluleka okanye zibaluleke kancinci njengoko ekhula. Ke, kukho amanqanaba amathathu ahlukeneyo:
Uneminyaka eli-10 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala
Ukusuka kule minyaka ikati inokuyeka ukutsiba kwiindawo eziphakamileyo njengoko iqala ukuphelelwa ngamandla. Amathambo kunye nezihlunu zakho ziya kuqala ukonakala, kwaye yinto esiza kuyibona xa siyithatha ezandleni zethu. Ubunzima bakho buya kuncipha kancinane, kwaye umzimba wakho uya kuziva ubuthathaka.
Inokuba ngamazwi ngakumbi kwaye yoyike, ke kuyakubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sikuphephe ukwenza ingxolo kunye nokuhamba ngequbuliso.
Uneminyaka eli-13 ukuya kweli-15 ubudala
Iya kuhlala icotha. Isenokungabikho xa isiza kusibulisa xa sifika ekhaya, okanye isenokungakwenzi oko ngokukhawuleza njengoko yayiqhele ukwenza. Yintoni egqithisile, Unokuba neengxaki zokuqala zokwaluphala, njengokulahleka kombono kunye / okanye ukuva, isifo samathambo okanye ukunganyamezelani kubushushu obubandayo.
Unokuphuhlisa imo embi ngenxa yotshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni wakho. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kufuneka ube nomonde kakhulu kuye kwaye umazise, njengoko senzile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ukuba siyamthanda, sichitha ixesha kunye naye kwaye simnika uthando oluninzi.
Ukusukela kwiminyaka engama-16
Ukuba ikati iphila iminyaka eli-16 okanye nangaphezulu singoneliseka. Oko kuyakuthetha ukuba simkhathalele kakhulu ebomini bakhe bonke, singamniki kuphela ukutya, amanzi kunye nendawo yokuzikhusela engqeleni okanye ebushushwini, kodwa nakwintembeko, kunye neendlela ezininzi zothando.
Njengomdla, ukuthi ikati eneminyaka eli-16 ubudala inokuthelekiswa nomntu oneminyaka engama-80 ubudala. Oku kuthetha ukuba usenokulibala ukusebenzisa ibhokisi yenkunkuma, kwaye nokuzilungisa. Kwimeko apho oku kuyenzeka, kuya kufuneka uyihlambe yonke imihla, amaxesha ambalwa ngosuku.
Kule minyaka, Kunokwenzeka ukuba uneengxaki zokudibana okanye naziphi na iingxaki zempilo ezinxulumene nabantu abadala, ke kuyakufuneka ukumsa kugqirha wezilwanyana rhoqo ukuze ahlolwe.
Ukwaluphala akunakuphepheka. Ke ngoko, kufanelekile ukusebenzisa elona xesha sinalo nekati yethu. Ngale ndlela sinokuqinisekisa ukuba uya kuba nobomi obunesidima kunye nokonwaba ecaleni kwethu.