Amakati, nangona ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukukholelwa, anoxolo. Bayazi ukuba baneenzipho ezomeleleyo ngokwaneleyo kunye namazinyo okwenza umonakalo omkhulu, ke basoloko bekuthintela ukulwa nabanye bohlobo lwabo kuba kungenjalo banokuphela bekonzakala kakhulu.
Ngesi sizathu, Ubundlongondlongo kwiikati ezihlala nabantu kubangelwa, ubukhulu becala, ngabo babakhathaleleyo. Ngaba ikhona indlela yokuyiphepha? Ewe kunjalo, kwaye yile siza kukuxelela yona ngokulandelayo.
Kutheni iikati zihlasela?
Ngokuqhelekileyo bazolile, kodwa ukuba kukho into ebaphazamisayo banokuhlasela. Amakati ayathanda ukuba nayo yonke into iphantsi kolawulo, yiyo loo nto yonke imihla bechitha ixesha bebaleka ngaphezulu kwezitulo, imilenze yabantu, izinto, ... ngokufutshane, kuyo yonke into abayithatha njengeyabo. Yintoni egqithisile, Zizilwanyana eziqhelekileyo ezingaluthandiyo utshintsho, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba banokuziva bebi kakhulu ngokutshintsha isofa (umzekelo) yendawo.
Ke, kukho izizathu zokuba kutheni le furry ingaphendula ngogonyamelo:
- Ukufika kwelungu elitsha lekhaya: isalamane esitsha, nokuba yinja, ikati, umntu, njl. inevumba elingaziwayo kubo. Ukuba izingeniso zingenziwanga kakuhle, oko kukuthi, ukuba iikati ebesele sinazo ekhaya azihlonitshwanga kwaye indawo yazo ishiywe ade amkele ilungu elitsha, banokwenza ngendlela embi.
- Zive usongelwaInokwenzeka xa umntu enyanzela iikati zakhe ukuba zibeke emathangeni abo xa bengafuni, okanye xa esinye isilwanyana sihlukumeza esinye. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, kufuneka uziqwalasele izilwanyana: ukuba ziyabhodla, zirhorhoze, zivule amehlo, zivule amehlo, kwaye / okanye zibonise amazinyo, kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo ngokuzikhulula okanye ngokubamba ikati. kwigumbi anokuhlala yedwa kulo, ezolile.
- Indawo exineneyoKuqhelekile ukuba kubo bonke ubomi bethu sihambe ngamaxesha amnandi kwaye abanye abangahlali kangako. Siphila ubomi obuxakeke kakhulu, kwaye oku, kufuneka sazi, kunokuchaphazela iikati zethu. Ukuphepha oku, kubalulekile ukuba sizame ukuzola kangangoko. Ukuba kunyanzelekile, singaqala ukuthatha i-infusions (i-linden ingasinceda ukuba siphumle ngakumbi), senze imithambo yokuphefumla, siziqhelanise neyoga okanye ukucamngca, simamele umculo opholileyo, bhala, zoba ... Nantoni na ephazamisa iingxaki isinceda ukuba silwe noxinzelelo , kwaye ngelishwa, ubudlelwane bethu nabahlobo bethu buya kuziphucula buqu 😉.
- Unyango olubiUkubetha isilwanyana ayilolwaphulo-mthetho kuphela kodwa kukwabangela iingxaki ezininzi. Isilwanyana, nokuba sihlobo luni na, esixhatshazwayo siza kufuna kakhulu, uncedo oluninzi ukoyisa kwaye siphinde sithembele ebantwini esinokuthi sihlasele ngenxa yoloyiko.
- Siboyikisile "bengalindelanga": bangakrwela kunye / okanye basilume ukuba sibothuse ngokungalindelanga, nokuba kungokubeka ikhukhamba ngasemva kwabo bengakhange babone, okanye enye into. Njengoko sele sitshilo, iikati kufuneka zilawulwe indawo yazo; Ngale ndlela bahlala bekhuselekile. Ukuba sibeka into ngasemva kwabo, xa bejika baya kuba nzima. Ke, kunokubonakala ngathi yinto ehlekisayo, kubo ngumzuzwana abanqwenela ukuba ngabe zange baphile.
- Sisebenzise elinye ilungu lomzimba wethu njengento yokudlala: Xa zizizinyane lekati, zisenokungasenzakalisi kangako, kodwa kufuneka ucinge ukuba ziyakhula kwaye, xa sele zikhulile, ziya kuqhubeka zisenza oko zikufundileyo zisengabantwana. Ukuba xa ziseziintsana siyazivumela zisilume okanye zisikrwembe, xa zikhula ziya kuqhubeka nokusihlasela. Ngesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukusoloko sibeka into yokudlala phakathi kwesandla sethu nabo ukuze bafunde ukuluma into yokudlala hayi thina.
Ukuba iyasiluma kwaye / okanye iyasikrwela, siya kuwumisa umdlalo kwangoko kwaye sihambe. Ukuba isibambe isandla okanye unyawo ngeenyawo zayo, asiyi kuyishukumisa; ke iya kukhulula. UNGAZE ubabethe okanye ubangxolise. Oku kuya kuboyikisa kuphela kwaye kubenze bangasithembi. - Baziva iintlungu kwilungu elithile lomzimba wabo: sesinye sezizathu esingenakukhutshwa. Xa besezintlungwini, okanye xa bechacha emva kotyando, banokuphendula kakubi. Kule meko, eyona nto sinokuyenza kukuzeka kade umsindo kwaye siphephe ukuyiphatha indawo apho kubuhlungu khona de bachache.
Ungabuthintela njani ubundlongondlongo kwiikati?
Ubundlongondlongo kwiikati bunokuphetshwa kumaxesha amaninzi. Into ekufuneka siyenzile kukukwenza Nika ingqalelo yakho ulwimi lomzimba, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uhlala unendawo ngaphakathi ekhaya onokuya kuyo nanini na xa ufuna uxinzelelo. Kukwacetyiswa kakhulu-kuphela ukuba uhlala emaphandleni okanye kwindawo apho zimbalwa kakhulu iimoto ezidlulayo -ukubavumela ukuba baphumele ngaphandle, kuba ngale ndlela banokuhlala ngaphandle ixesha elide njengoko befuna kwaye babuye xa beziva bhetele.
Enye indlela yokubayeka baphume ngaphandle ibiya kubafundisa ukuba banxibe ihashe (in Oku kubhaliwe Sichaza indlela yokwenza). Kodwa gcinani engqondweni ukuba iindawo apho uya khona kufuneka zikhuseleke, oko kuthetha ukuba akufuneki kubekho nasiphi na isithuthi.
Olunye ukhetho olungcono (nolukhuselekileyo) kukwenza chitha ixesha kunye nabo. Ukuba neekati akuthethi (okanye akufuneki) zinike ukutya neziselo kuphela, kodwa uxanduva esinalo ngokubhekisele kumzuzu wokuqala zifika ekhaya lukhulu kakhulu kunolo. Ezi zilwanyana zinoboya kufuneka zidlale, zifumane uthando (ukuphululwa, ukwanga, amagama amnandi), kwaye uhlale nazo ixesha elide kangangoko kunokwenzeka, nokuba zisempilweni okanye ziyagula.
Kuphela yile, ngentlonipho, umonde, kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, uthando, siya kuba nakho ukunqanda ukuhlaselwa okanye ukuhlaselana, ukwenza ukuhlala kunye kube mnandi kuwo wonke umntu.
Siyathemba ukuba eli nqaku beliluncedo kuwe kwaye ukwazile ukufunda okungakumbi malunga neekati, indlela abaziphethe ngayo kunye nemfundo yabo efundisayo.
Molo Monica. Enkosi ngeposi yakho eluncedo. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo ndaye ndathabatha ikati okokuqala ebomini bam, kodwa ukuze ndenze eso sigqibo kuye kwafuneka ndoyise uloyiko oluninzi kunye nokucalulwa okwakusekwe kum kuba usapho lwam lwemvelaphi luthiyile iikati. Ngexesha elifutshane ikati yam iye yaba liqabane elibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa kusafuneka ndilwe nokungaqiniseki kwam. Kuyandinceda kakhulu ukwazi ukuba kukho abantu abafana nawe abaziyo ukuthanda nokuqonda ukuba izilwanyana zahlukile! Ndenza le intro ukuze uqonde ukungazi kwam kunye noloyiko lwam. Upapasho lwakho luza kum kuba izolo ikati yam eneenyanga ezine ubudala indilume kakhulu, nangona indibethile ngakumbi ukuba unditshonise amazinyo ngokungathi ndilutshaba lwakhe. Nangona ndiyakuqonda ukuphendula kwesilwanyana, inyani kukuba ndiziva ndikhathazekile. Unomkhwa ombi wokuwela phakathi kwam imilenze okanye ukungqengqa eholweni, ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye bendicinga ukuba uzakundoyikisa ngakumbi ngokumkhaba ngengozi kodwa akoyiki kwanto. Izolo ngelishwa ndinyathele umsila wakhe, kucacile andimbonanga, bendenza umsebenzi wasekhaya, bendiphethe izinto kwaye indawo yokungena ibimxinwa kakhulu, kuyabonakala ukuba ibiphantsi kwefanitshala, ndibone inxenye yomzimba wakhe microsecond kodwa inyawo sele ndisehlile, andinakuphendula, kodwa khange ndilixhase unyawo ngaphezu komzuzwana kwaye khange enze nengxolo yesilumkiso ... andiboni xa endiluma bendiziva kuphela Uxinzelelo kunye nokutsha okunamandla kwi-instep kunye nesithende, kusanditshisa ... khange ndimohlwaye kuba ndiqonda ukuba ibikukungaqondani oko kodwa ndichukumisekile kukuba unzima kakhulu xa kucacile ukuba ingozi ... ndiyathetha ukuba andikhange ndimoyikise, khange ndimsukele okanye ndimvale ikona, udlale waya kuthi xhaxhe Akazange afike ngexesha, yiyo loo nto ndicinga ukuba uyazi ukuba andilotshaba lakhe, ixesha elininzi kunye, ndiyamteketisa kwaye ndidlale naye, sisondele kakhulu okanye ubuncinci yile nto bendizimisele ukuyenza. Ndiyazi ukuba umsila weekati "ungcwele" kodwa intembeko esiyakhayo ikwangcwele kwaye ibeka unyawo olunye phantsi kwefenitshala kwaye uziva ukuba isilwanyana sakho esifana nentombi sikuhlasele ngaphandle kwesilumkiso kwakundiphoxa. Namhlanje siyaphila kodwa iyaqhubeka nokungena endleleni yam ngokungathi khange kwenzeke nto, ndinexhala lokuba izakuphinda yenzeke. Nangona izolo khange ndimohlwaye ngokundiluma ukuba kukho into ephinda yenzeke kuya kufuneka ndiyenzile. Kuya kufuneka ndibeke umda kuyo kuba ukuba injalo kwiinyanga ezine, izakuba njani emva koko?
Molo Mariela.
Ndiyayiqonda inkxalabo yakho, kodwa ndingathanda nokukuxelela into: uyinjana kwaye kufuneka afunde.
Amantshontsho eenkuku aneenyanga ezine ayayenza loo nto: ayazifihla, alume, agxothe izinto,… ikati lam liza kuba neenyanga ezisixhenxe ubudala kwaye lisafunda ukuba kukho izinto elingenakuzenza.
Kuya kufuneka uninzi, umonde omninzi, ngakumbi xa bebancinci kakhulu. Kwaye, ewe, kufuneka sibeke imida kubo kwaye singabavumeli ukuba basilume okanye basikrwele. Uyifumana njani lonto? Ngomthamo olungileyo wokunyamezela, kunye nokudlala. Kuya kufuneka uzame ukuba nento yokudlala kufutshane xa ukunye nabo, ukuze xa befuna ukudlala ngenxalenye yomzimba wethu sibeke into yokudlala phambi kwabo ukuze badlale ngayo. Kwimeko apho asivisa kabuhlungu, siya kuwumisa umdlalo sihambe.
Kuya kufuneka senze ukuphindaphinda okuninzi imini yonke kunye neenyanga, kodwa ekugqibeleni siya kubenza baziphathe kakuhle.
A ubingelele.
Ndiyavuya uyayithanda, Coralia. 🙂