Kuninzi esele kuthethiwe kwaye kukho intetho malunga nezinja ekufuneka zoyikwe kuba kusithiwa ziyingozi kakhulu kwaye zinokudala ukwenzakalisa nokuba ubuphethe kakuhle, into ethi kwelinye icala ayiyonyani, kodwa Ngaba zikhona iikati ezinobundlongondlongo? Akunakuba yinto engaqhelekanga ukucinga ngayo, kuba i-feline isilwanyana ngokubanzi esihlala sodwa kwaye sinendawo enkulu.
Ukuba sele kufuneka ube nomonde omninzi xa uqeqesha izinja, iikati kufuneka ziphathwe ngenkathalo ngakumbi ukuba kunokwenzeka, kuba ukuba siziphatha kakubi kube kanye, sinokucinga ukuba inqanaba lokuzithemba ebesikade silifezekisile liya kuphuka yaphukile yiglasi yekristale ewela emhlabeni. Kwaye kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuyifumana.
Iikati ezinobundlongondlongo: intsomi okanye inyani?
Abantu, njengezinye izilwanyana, bayazikhusela kwiintlungu. Akukho mntu uthanda ukukrwitshwa okanye ukulunywa, kwaye ukuba isilwanyana sikwenza oko ebuntwaneni bethu bokuqala, kunokwenzeka ukuba sikhule siziva sisoyika kwaye singazithembi xa sidlula. Kodwa uninzi loloyiko lunokupheliswa ukuba sichithe ixesha elithile sifunda kweso silwanyana singenzi monakalo ungako, kuba kuhlala kukho unobangela wesiphumo.
Iikati zizilwanyana ezizimeleyo, ewe, kodwa zinokuba sentlalontle ukuba ziyahlonitshwa kwaye zinikwe uthando ngeedosi ezifanelekileyo (Oko kukuthi, ngalo lonke ixesha zibacela kwaye nanini na xa sifuna ukubanika ngelixa bephumle okanye bedlala, ngaphandle kokubongamela ); Ngokuchasene noko, baya kukhula bodwa ebantwini ukuba abawugcinanga unxibelelwano lwemihla ngemihla xa babeziinjana, okanye ukuba abayikhathaleli imikhuhlane yabo ekhaya. Oku kuthetha ukuba kuxhomekeke kubungakanani bothando esibanika lona, baya kuba ngabantu abaninzi okanye abancinci.
Ngokwemvelo, iikati kufuneka zibe ndlongondlongo xa zizingela, okanye xa zikhusela indawo yazo okanye usapho okanye ubomi bazo, kodwa kwezinye iimeko ezinokuthi zifumaneke imini yonke, konke abaza kukwenza kukuphumla, ukutya, ukuphonononga indawo abahlala kuyo kunye nokunxibelelana neentlobo zabo amaxesha ngamaxesha (okanye yonke imihla kwimeko yeengonyama). Ke, emva kokuziphatha gwenxa kuhlala kukho unobangela, isizathu sokuba ezi zilwanyana kufuneka zilwe.
Ngaloo ngqiqo, ahluke kakhulu kuthi. Abantu banokuba nobundlobongela xa abo sibathandayo besongelwa, okanye xa ubomi bethu busengozini. Kungokwemvelo ngokupheleleyo. Kungokwemvelo. Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba uhlanga lwabantu luyingozi? Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba iikati ziyingozi? Hayi akunjalo kwakona. Banokubakho abantu abathile, ngakumbi kwimeko yabantu, kodwa ndicinga ukuba ukuphawula into ethile kuyingozi okanye kuyindlongondlongo (UFelis catus kwimeko yeekati, homo sapiens sapiens kwimeko yabantu) ngabantu abambalwa yinto engafanelekanga ukwenziwa.
Zithini iikati?
Ukujolisa kwiikati ezihlala ezindlwini, nokuba unayo okanye ngaphandle kwemvume yokuphuma ngaphandle, ezi zinja zinoboya zinokuba ndlongondlongo kwezi meko:
- Ukufika kwesilwanyana esineemilenze emine kusapho: yimeko eqhelekileyo. Sifumana okanye sifumana inja okanye ikati entsha kwaye ikati esele sinayo iyacaphuka. Iyakuchukumisa, iyakugquma kwaye isenokufuna ukukuhlasela. Ukuthintela oku, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubazisa kancinci kancinci, ushiye isilwanyana "esitsha" kwigumbi kangangeentsuku ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-5 kwaye utshintshe iibhedi ngeloxesha ukuze uqhelane nevumba.
- Umoya wosapho oxineneyo: iikati zithambile. Banokuzibona ngokulula iimvakalelo zethu neemvakalelo zethu. Ukuba ezi mvakalelo azibi, baya kuba nexesha elinzima, ukuya kuthi ukuba imeko iqhubeka iintsuku okanye iiveki, iikati ziya kufikelela kwinqanaba apho zingasayi kuphinda zibekhona. Xa sele bewufikelele umda wabo, enye indlela "yokuqhushumba" inokuba ngokuba noburhalarhume nokuba nomsindo.
- Xa besiva iintlungu: ukuba ngaba banokugula okanye bafumene ingozi, baya kuziva bebi kangangeentsuku ezininzi, oko kusengqiqweni. Kodwa zikhona iikati ezinyamezelayo iintlungu kakubi, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba zinokuba nokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo. Ukuthintela oku, akukho nto injengokungena kwi-diffuser Kude kude kwigumbi abakulo, kwaye ubanike ukutya okuninzi-ngaphandle kokoyikwa-kunye namabhaso ngohlobo lweenkonkxa zeekati.
- Xa behlinzwa kumhlobo: Akusoloko kusenzeka oko, kodwa xa iikati ezimbini okanye nangaphezulu zihlala kunye endlwini, xa ziye zasebenza kwenye yazo, xa zibuya zinokungabi nantlonelo naye. Ngoba? Ngenxa yevumba elikhuphayo. Impumlo yethu ayinakuyibona- okanye ayibikho njengeyakho-, kodwa ukuba ubekwiklinikhi yezilwanyana okanye esibhedlele kangangeeyure okanye iintsuku, umzimba wekati yethu unuka ngathi yiklinikhi yezilwanyana okanye isibhedlele. Elo livumba elingathandwayo ziikati, ke xa besiva ukuba ziyazisa. Ukuthintela iingxaki, le kati ilulamileyo kufuneka igcinwe kwigumbi elahlukileyo kwabanye kude kube kuphuculwe.
Kutheni iikati ziluma nje?
Amakati ngokubanzi zizilwanyana ezinoxolo. Bayazi ukuba ngezikhonkwane zabo kunye namazinyo banokwenza umonakalo omkhulu, kodwa bayazi ukuba banokubenzakalisa, ke ziluma abantu xa beziva besoyikiswa okanye xa bedlala. Ukuthintela oku, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubaphatha ngentlonipho nothando, kwaye ungaze ubavumele badlale ngezandla okanye ngeenyawo zethu. Unolwazi oluthe kratya kula manqaku: Ungayinqanda njani ikati yam ukuba ingandilumi, Kutheni ikati yam indikhotha emva koko indilume, kwaye Ndingenza ntoni ukuba ikati yam iyandiluma.
Ngaba indlela yokuziphatha enoburharha inokuthintelwa?
Ewe, kodwa hayi i-100%, kuba akunakwenzeka ukulawula zonke iimeko kwaye asinokwazi ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni ngenyanga okanye unyaka. Kodwa zininzi izinto esinokuzenza ukwenza iikati zethu ekuhlaleni, ezinobuntu kunye nothando, kwaye zezi zilandelayo:
Banike uthando oluninzi
Ndiyazi, ndinganyanzelisa kakhulu, kodwa uthando lubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba abahlobo bethu banokuhlala kamnandi kwaye bonwabile kunye nathi. Kuya kufuneka uqale ubanike ukusukela ngosuku lokuqala abafika ngalo ekhaya. Ukuba zizinjana, kufuneka uzikhe amatyeli aliqela ngemini, kwaye ukuba bafikile sele bebadala kufuneka ubanike indawo yabo kwaye wenze elona xesha apho baziva bekhululekile kwaye bekhululekile.
Yiba nomonde kubo
Ngokukodwa iikati okanye iikati ezisebenzayo zinokuchitha usuku zijikeleza zisuka kwenye indawo ziye kwenye. Endleleni, abanokuyiqonda kwaye bayilahle ezinye izinto kwaye baphule, ndingasathethi ke ukuba kukho abantu abanoboya abonwabela ukwenza ububi. Kodwa, kungakhathalekile ukuba badala kangakanani, kufuneka ube nomonde.
Babuyekeze ngokuziphatha kwabo kakuhle
Ngalo lonke ixesha besenza into kakuhle, ungathandabuzi ukubavuza. Zininzi iindlela zokwenza: ukubanika itoti yokutya kwekati emanzi, isilwanyana sasekhaya, ukuwola, into yokudlala onokudlala nayo.… Ukuvuza indlela abaziphethe kakuhle ngayo ayizukubonwabisa kuphela, kodwa ikwayindlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba bayakuphinda baziphathe kakuhle.
Sukudlala ngezandla okanye iinyawo
Iikati okanye iikati kufuneka zenziwe ziqonde ukuba akukho lungu lomzimba liyinto yokudlala, nokuba zindala kangakanani. Kuyinyani ukuba xa zizinjana kakhulu azenzi monakalo ungako, kodwa kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba xa sele bebadala baya kuqhubeka nokwenza konke abakufundileyo nayo yonke into esivumele ukuba bayenze njengabantwana. Ke, Ngalo lonke ixesha izama ukusikrwempa okanye ukusiluma, kufuneka simise umdlalo kwaye sishiye izilwanyana emgangathweni -ukuba bezisesofeni okanye ebhedini-, okanye zizodwa -ukuba ibisemgangathweni-.
Banxibelelanise nezinye izilwanyana ezinemilenze emine ...
Ukuba unabahlobo abanezinja kunye / okanye iikati, inokusetyenziselwa iikati zethu ukunxibelelana nazo. Ngale ndlela, ukuba ngomso sifuna ukuba neekati okanye inja, kuya kuba lula kubo ukuba bazivumelanise.
… Kwaye nabantu
Ukugcina iikati egumbini ngalo lonke ixesha iindwendwe zisiza ayiyongcamango ilungileyo. Ngale nto, ekuphela kwento ephunyeziweyo kukuba bakhula bebodwa, baziva bengakhuselekanga kakhulu phambi kwabasemzini abaza kusibona. Ke, Kuyacetyiswa kakhulu ukuba uboya buhlale nosapho kunye notyelelo. Ewe kufuneka ugcine iingcango kunye neefestile zivaliwe ukuthintela ukuba bashiye ikhaya, kodwa ngapha koko, kuyacetyiswa ukuba babenxibelelane nabantu abaza kuza.
Siyathemba ukuba ezi ngcebiso ziluncedo kuwe 🙂.