Ukuba ungomnye waba bantu bacinga ngokwamkela ikatana, ngokuqinisekileyo eyona minyaka ilungileyo yokwenza oko ihamba entlokweni yakho, ngakumbi xa ucinga ukuba uninzi lwabantu luthatha ukuba ukwamkela iikati ezindala kunokuba yinto yokwenene edabini ekhaya, kuba Sele benemanias kunye nokuziphatha okwenziweyo ukusuka ebuntwaneni.
Ngoko ke, Liliphi elona xesha lilungileyo lokuthatha umhlobo wethu simgoduse? Kule nqaku ekhethekileyo siza kukunika iingcebiso zokukunceda ukhethe uboya bakho obutsha.
Phambi kokwamkela ikati
Ikati, nokuba iyacaca, sisilwanyana, into ephilayo leyo Uya kudinga uthotho lokhathalelo kunye noqwalaselo ngalo lonke ixesha lokudla kwakhe ubomi. Xa sithatha isigqibo sokwamkela enye, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba siyithathele ingqalelo le ngongoma, kwaye sicinge ukuba ixesha labo lokuphila linokuba malunga neminyaka engama-20 ngokwe-avareji, ukuba nje bakhathalelwe kakuhle.
Kuphela ukuba sikulungele ngokwenene ukuhlala naye yonke loo minyaka, siya kuba ngabahlali beekati abanoxanduva. Ngaphandle koko, Ikati esiza nayo emva kwethutyana iyakuphela ihlala kwindawo yokuhlala izilwanyana okanye, okubi ngakumbi, esitratweni.
Ikati akufuneki ibe yinto ethandwayo, kwaye ayifanelanga ukuba yinto yokudlala ukuyisebenzisa kwaye 'ilahle kude' (ukungahoyi, ukungahoyi, okanye ukulahla). Kumsitho weentsuku ezikhethekileyo, ezinje ngeentsuku zokuzalwa okanye iKrisimesi, kusekho utyekelo oluninzi lokunika abantwana izilwanyana zasekhaya, kuba bezicelile. Le yimpazamo inja okanye ikati eya kuthi ekugqibeleni ihlawule ngayo.
Ndiyazi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ndiyaziphinda ngaphezu kwegalikhi, kodwa, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthathe kuphela ikati eligodukayo ukuba lonke usapho luyavuma. Ngaphandle koko kuya kuba ngcono ukulinda elona xesha lilungileyo.
Ikati ingamkelwa xa ineminyaka emingaphi?
Ukuba ekugqibeleni lonke usapho lizimisele ukukhathalela uboya kuyo yonke iminyaka yobomi bayo, ekuphela kwento eseleyo ukuyenza kukwazi impendulo yalo mbuzo: ikati okanye ikati yabantu abadala? Kunokuba lula ukuphendula, kodwa inyani yahluke kakhulu. Masibone ukuba kutheni:
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Amantshontsho ekati aneenyanga ezimbalwa ubudala anembonakalo… yenjana. Oku kuthetha ukuba azisebenzi. Bathanda ukuchitha lonke ixesha bevukile bedlala, bebaleka, bexhuma, kwaye besenza yonke into eyenziwa sisilwanyana esincinci: ukuhlola indawo. Yonke into intsha kubo, kwaye yonke into ifuna ukuphandwa, yonke into iyinyani.
Bayayidinga imfundo, kodwa uhlala unikwa ngothando nomonde. Umonde omninzi. Ukuba ufuna ukuthatha ikati, kufuneka ube nomonde kwaye umfundise izinto kancinci kancinci. Ngoku kufuneka uyazi loo nto iikati zihlala zifunda ukusebenzisa ibhokisi yenkunkuma ngokwazo, kuba zizilwanyana ezicocekileyo ngokwemvelo; Nangona kunjalo, xa kuziwa ekufundeni ukusebenzisa iposti yokukrwela, kuya kufuneka ubanike isandla, ukutshiza nge-catnip okanye ukushiya ukutya kwekati kwiipali ukuze unyuke uye kuzithatha.
Kwelinye icala, ingqondo yekati iziphatha njengesiponji: funda okuninzi kwaye ngokukhawuleza okukhuluNokuba ilungile okanye imbi, ke ukuba iyaphathwa ngothando, iya kuba yikati eyonwabisayo nenothando eya kuthanda ukuba phakathi kwabantu. Ngaphandle koko, siya kuba nesilwanyana esingenakwenzeka, esiya kuhlala sisoyika abantu.
Ikati yabantu abadala
Isimo sekati senziwa kunyaka wokuqala wobomi, ukuze xa sele efikile ebudaleni sinokuthi sigqibile ukukhula. Oku kuyinyani, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba asinakuguqula isimilo sabo kancinci.
Iikati ezindala ezikumaziko okhuseleko nabakhuseli zizilwanyana eziye zasiwa apho ngabantu abangazifuniyo, okanye abangakwaziyo ukuzikhathalela, okanye abahlala esitratweni kodwa ngenxa yentlalontle yabo banokwamkelwa. Kwimeko nganye kwezi zintathu, ikati lixolelwe kwinto ebaluleke kakhulu: uthando. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba sele ebenobomi obunzima kakhulu obuya kunyibilika kunye nee-caress ozinike zona.
Ewe, ukuba ugoduka nekati esele ixhatshaziwe, kuya kufuneka ube nomonde kakhulu kwaye uhambe kancinci kancinci. Ukuba unabantwana, kubalulekile ukuba, ubuncinci kwinyanga yokuqala, uphephe ukwenza ingxolo enkulu okanye amatheko, ukusukela oko Udinga ixesha lokuza kwimbono yokuba ixesha lakho elidlulileyo alinakuze libuye, kwaye ngoku unokuphila ubomi obunesidima.
Ukugqiba ...
Nokuba umdala kangakanani umhlobo wakho osenyongweni, zikhona iimfuno ekufuneka uzigubungele: ukongeza ekumnikeni uthando oluninzi, kuya kufuneka ube nomonde, umnike indawo efanelekileyo ethe cwaka apho angaphumla khona, kwaye kunjalo akusayi kubakho kunqongophala kokutya namanzi.
Kodwa ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into, wonke umntu ohleli kakuhle kwikati kufuneka abekhona ngentlonipho nabo. Kungoko kuphela apho umntu anokuba nobudlelwane kunye nenwele yakhe apho bobabini baya kuthi baxhamle.
Amakati, loo misebenzi mincinci yendalo ekwaziyo ukoyisa iintliziyo zethu. Makhe ndiyenze, kwaye ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba ubomi bakho abusoze bufane.
Molo Agustin.
Akukho minyaka ibekiweyo. Xa umntu enokukhathalela ikati, xa benokuthatha uxanduva lokujongana nenkcitho ebandakanya oko, iya kuba ngumzuzu wokuyamkela.
A ubingelele.
Baye bandinika uboya bam obu-3 okanye obu-4 kwiiveki ezidlulileyo khange ndimthabathe wamamkela, wayeyikati eyonwabileyo wasinika uthando oluninzi Wahlala iminyaka eli-14 kunye nathi kwiiveki ezi-2 ezidlulileyo Wasweleka sishiywa ziikati. Uthando oluninzi ewe siyayazi indlela yokufundisa kufuneka sinyamezele kakhulu, imibuliso evela kwi-los angeles ca, usa
Molo Rudy.
Ndiyaxolisa ngokulahleka kwekati yakho
Njengoko usitsho, banika uthando kunye nenkampani eninzi kwaye xa bemka ... kubi kakhulu.
Ininzi yokukhuthaza.
Ikati yam yaphila iminyaka eli-16, zizilwanyana ezizimeleyo kwaye zinothando kakhulu, zifunda ngokukhawuleza okukhulu, kwimeko yam ndimenze ukuba azonakalise ngokwam, kuba qho xa ndiphakama ndithanda ukuya emsebenzini ndimnika isidlo sakusasa ipleyiti elungileyo inyama okanye inkukhu kwaye ngempela veki wenza ngathi utya isidlo sakusasa ngeloxesha. Ngelishwa usweleke enesifo seswekile. Ikati lokugqibela lahlala kuphela iinyanga ezisi-7 xa ndandimngenise kwi-neutered wasweleka nje emva kokuba enikwe i-anesthesia, wayenempilo entle kwaye ekwimeko entle kakhulu. Ngoku ndinoloyiko lokuthena, andazi ukuba ndiza kuthini xa ndinenye ikatana
Molo Beatriz.
Ilusizi kakhulu into eyenzekileyo kwikatana yakho 🙁 Phambi kokuba uthathe inxaxheba, kufuneka uyilinganise ibhokhwe ukuze wazi ukuba ifuna ianesthesia kangakanani. Ngokuqinisekileyo akukho ngxaki ivelayo.
Ndithe, ndiyaxolisa kwaye ndikhuthaze kakhulu.
Molo Monica, ndithathe ikati ezimbini ezimalunga neenyanga ezi-4. Bafunyenwe ngabakhuseli esitratweni kwaye kubonakala ngathi banamava amabi ebantwini okanye abanalo. Bebehleli ekhaya ngaphezulu kweveki kwaye nangona amaxesha ngamaxesha bephuma bayokudlala kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha xa bendibona bayazimela kwakhona. Bayandoyika kakhulu mna nesithandwa sam kwaye kubonakala ngathi bafuna kuphela ukuba sibanike ukutya… andifuni ukuba baqhele ukuzimela emini baphume bodwa ebusuku okanye batye…. Kwaye ndifuna ukuba bazive ukuba banokusithemba ngaphandle kokubaleka ngalo lonke ixesha siwela ... ndiyathemba ukuba ungandinceda ndenze into elungileyo okanye kunye namantshontsho am.
Molo Yvonne.
Ndincoma okufanayo neVerónica: uninzi lomonde, imidlalo kunye nomonde ngakumbi 🙂
Banike iitoti zekati rhoqo emva koko, kwaye uzame ukuziphulula (ngokungathi awufuni ukuba baqaphele).
Kancinci kancinci uza kubaphumelela, ngokuqinisekileyo.
A ubingelele.
U-Yvonne ungazama ukusondela kubo ngokusebenzisa imidlalo, uthengele iikati into yokudlala kwaye uthathe ixesha lakho lokudlala kunye nabo kwaye uya kubona ukuba ukuzuza ukuzithemba kukuncinci kancinci kancinci ungabacinezeli
Ikati yam yayihlala unyaka omnye kwaye yayiyiKati enomsindo kakhulu. Ndinenye ikati ebisandula ukuba neenjana kwaye itye umndla, yinto eqhelekileyo na?
Molweni Apreli.
Ewe kuqhelekile. Amakati atya i-placenta ukuze amarhamncwa angakwazi ukuyifumana okanye amancinci.
A ubingelele.