Ubudlelwane ikati enabo nomntu buphantse babufana nobelinye ilungu lodidi lwayo. Ithetha ntoni le nto? I-feline iya kuziphatha ngendlela ebonakala ifanelekileyo kuxhomekeke kunyango olwamkelayo. Ngokungafaniyo nenja, ukuba kukho into eyenziweyo kuye engamkholisiyo, kuyakufuneka senze iinzame-ngakumbi okanye kancinci, eziya kuxhomekeka nakuboya-ukubuyisa ukuzithemba kwakhe.
Ngesi sizathu, imihla ngemihla, ukubala ukusuka kwasekuqaleni, kufuneka senze konke okusemandleni ukuze sihlale sonwabile kunye nathi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sithi abenze isigqibo sokuhlala naye. Okwangoku, iingxaki zihlala zivela, kunjalo ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuphinda uyithembe ikati, ungayeki ukufunda.
Kutheni le nto siphulukana nethemba lekati?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba sazi ukuba kutheni le nto kuphulukene nokuthembana, kuba kungenjalo kuya kuba nzima kuthi ukuba senze ntoni ukuyifumana kwakhona. Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zezi zilandelayo:
- Ikati iye yaziva ingakhathalelwanga: imeko eqheleke kakhulu yeyokuba ikati ichitha imini yonke iyodwa ekhaya, kwaye xa usapho lwayo lomntu lubuyayo abanikeli ngqalelo kuye nangona emthanda kakhulu.
- Uye waphathwa kakubi: impatho-gadalala ayisiyomzimba kuphela, ikwangumlomo Kuyinyani ukuba ikati ayiqondi intsingiselo yamagama ethu, kodwa iyazi okuninzi malunga neethoni kunye nevolumu yelizwi. Ukuba abantu bakho bayangxola kwaye / okanye bakubethe, ukuba badlala umculo ongxolayo, ukuba bayakuhlukumeza,… isilwanyana siya kuhlala kuloyiko kwaye, ewe, siya kufunda ukungabathembi abantu.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuba senza nantoni na enokumcaphukisa njengokumnyanzela ukuba abe kwindawo apho kubonakala ukuba akayithandi, umzekelo, okanye ukuba asibonisi uthando okanye sidlale naye.
Ukubuyisela njani ukuzithemba kwekati?
Okokuqala, kufuneka sazi ukuba ikati sisidalwa esiphilayo esiya kufuna ukhathalelo ebomini bayo bonke. Ngo "khathalela" andithethi nje ngamanzi nokutya, kodwa ndikwindawo ekhuselekileyo nenentabalala onokuhlala kuyo. Ukongeza, kufuneka simbonise, yonke imihla, ukuba siyikhathalele kangakanani imidlalo, ii-caress, kunye namaxesha athile (ukutya okumanzi) kweekati amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Ukuba samkele ikati ephethwe gadalala, okanye nangasiphi na isizathu mva nje khange siyinake, kufuneka sinyamezele kakhulu kuye y jonga umzimba wakho ukuze uqonde ukuba izama ukusixelela ntoni. Kuya kufuneka uhambe kancinci. Akufuneki siyinyanzele le meko.
Xa sisiya kumbetha, siza kumvumela ukuba asijoje kuqala isandla kuthi emva koko, ukuba akakhange arumbe okanye abenovalo, siza kumbamba umqolo. Kwaye ukuba awufuni kufumana ukwenziwa, akukho nto yenzekayo, iya kuba nexesha layo. Siza kukumema ukuba udlale yonke imihla kwaye kancinci kancinci uyakuqonda ukuba asizukukwenzakalisa.
Ngaba ikati lakho lonwabile okanye cha?
Kubalulekile ukuba nangona sikunike ingcebiso apha ngasentla, uyazi ukuba ikati yakho iyavuya na okanye ayonwabanga. Ukuba xa ekubona, abafundi bakhe baxinekile, iindlebe zakhe zicabalele, kwaye nomzimba wakhe ugobile, mhlawumbi akakhululekanga. ngobukho bakho kwaye uya kufuna ukubaleka.
Ukuba uyoyika, uya kuzimela ekoneni yendlu. Ukuba awuzange uyenze ngaphambili, kungenxa yokuba kukho into eyenzekileyo ebangele ukuba woyike kwaye woyike… kungenzeka ukuba ulahlekelwe kukuzithemba.
Kubalulekile ukuba ufumanise ukuba yintoni na ikati yakho engayithandiyo kwaye ulawula into ongayithandiyo. Nangona ungaqinisekanga ngento enokwenzeka kuye, unokulandela ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo ukuze uzame ukuzithemba kwakhona.
Yinike indawo
Nika ikati yakho ithuba lokuziva ukhuselekile kwaye ukhuthazekile ukuba uphinde uzive uthanda kwakhona. Umqolo wakho uza kuza kuwe xa eziva ekulungele, kodwa akufuneki umnyanzele ukuba enze njalo ukuba ukrokrela. Hlonipha ixesha xa lilungile. Kufuneka ube nomonde kuyo.
Ungaze umthathe ezandleni zakho ukuba uyaqonda ukuba akafuni, kuba ungathatha ukubetha okuhle. Ukuba uyambamba kwaye uyabhabha, myeke kwaye mayiyeke indlela yayo. Luphawu lokuba ufuna eyakho indawo.
Ukuba akafuni ukuba uphinde umlande, myeke akuxelele xa ufuna ukuphathwa kwaye uyenze ngothando lwakho lonke akakuvumela ukuba uyenze.
Yiba nobulali
Xa ekuvumela ukuba umphathe, yindlela yokukuxelela ukuba uyakuthemba kwakhona, nokuba akakuvumeli ukuba umlande. Ukulandela ngokuzenzekelayo okanye ukuhlikihla emilenzeni yakho luphawu oluhle.
Ungazama ukumphulula ngelixa elele entloko okanye phakathi kweendlebe zakhe kwanesilevu sakhe ukuze abone ukuba uyayamkela na. Kodwa ukuba ikati yakho ayifuni, yiphephe. Unokuzama ukubrasha ngokuhamba kancinci nangokuhamba kancinci. Oku kuya kumenza azive elungileyo xa ekunye nawe.
Dlala naye
Xa uqaphela ukuba iqala ukusondela kuwe, iya kuba licebo elihle ukuqala ukuzama dlala naye. Unokwenza oku ukwakha ukuthembana kwakhona kwaye wenze ukuba umntu wakho omnyama azive ukuba umthanda ngokwenyani., uyamhlonipha kwaye uyathanda ukuchitha ixesha naye.
Ungasebenzisa ithoyizi yekati okanye into ayithandayo ukudlala ngayo njengentambo okanye umqulu wekhadibhodi ... nantoni na ayonwabileyo nawe yamkelekile. Khumbula ukuba lixesha lokudlala kwaye kufuneka umnike ingqalelo yakho yonke ukuze azive ukuba uyathandwa.
Ezo zinto ziyasilela
Iindlela zibalulekile ebantwini, kodwa nakwiikati. Bayathanda ukwazi ukuba yintoni elandelayo eza kulandela. Ke ngoko, jonga indlela yesiqhelo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zekhaya lakho ukuyidlula ecaleni kwakho.
Ungadibanisa umdlalo kunye nokuphumla. Iishedyuli kunye nekati yakho kubalulekile ukuze ugcine engqondweni kwimihla yakho yemihla ngemihla.
Ixesha lesidlo sasemini
Ukunika ikati yakho ukuphatha qho ngoku (ukuphatha ikati) ikwangumbono olungileyo wokugcina ukuthembela kwakho kuwe. Ungabavuza ngokuziphatha kwabo okuhle.
Ukongeza, zondle ngokwakho kwaye ke uya kuyimisela ngokusondeleyo ikati yakho, kuba bahlala bekhetha abo bantu bakukhathaleleyo ukutya kwabo. Mnike amabhaso esandleni sakho ukuze azi ukuba nguwe omthandayo.
Ukusebenzisana kufuneka kuhlala kulungile kuba ukuba ikati yakho yoyika kwakhona ngenxa yesohlwayo, ukuthembana kungaphinde kuphule kwaye ukubuyisa ibhondi kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi.
Ukuba akafuni okanye uyazifihla, musa ukumleqa okanye umnyanzele ukuba atye ezandleni zakho. Yiba nomonde kwaye umvumele ukuba ayenze xa eziva ekulungele.
Ukuba, ngaphandle kwemizamo yethu, iinyanga zihamba kwaye asifumani phuculo, kuyacetyiswa kakhulu ukuba ubonane ne-ethologist okanye i-feline Therapist.