Sonke sinqwenela ukuba singathi sinekati enothando ethanda ukuphathwa kunye nokufunxwa, kodwa ngelishwa ayingabo bonke abantu abanoboya njengee-caresses, ngakumbi ukuba bathathwe ezitalatweni okanye ukuba ngexa lobuntwana babo abanxibelelananga kakhulu nabantu.
Kule nqaku siza kuthetha ngayo kutheni ikati yam ingafakwa Kwaye yintoni onokuyenza ukuze uboya bakho bungoyiki xa umnika uthando.
Kutheni ikati yam ingafakwa?
Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni ikati ingafuni ukuthintwa. Ezona ziphambili zezi:
- Khange anxibelelane kakhulu nabantu, nokuba uhlala esitratweni okanye ngoba, nangona ebesekhaya ukususela oko wayeyinjana, khange achithe xesha nosapho.
- Unamava amabi nomntu ekubambayo okanye ekubethayo. Kwaye, nangona ixesha lihamba, inkumbulo ye-feline ilungile kwaye iya kuhlala ikhunjulwa.
- Uziva iintlungu kwindawo ethile yomzimba wakho. Ngamanye amaxesha unokuzenzakalisa, okanye usenokuba nesifo, ke ukuba uyabona ukuba akaphilanga, musa ukuthandabuza ukumsa kugqirha wezilwanyana.
Uyiphulula njani ikati?
Ingakhangeleka ilula kakhulu, kodwa ukuba awunawo amava amaninzi, isilwanyana sinokucinga ukuba ungxamisekile okanye ushukuma ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Kwikati, umntu mkhulu kakhulu, ke ukuba sifuna asondele, Ndicebisa ukuba ulandele eli nyathelo ngenyathelo:
- Yima phambi kwekati yakho, uhlale phantsi.
- Mmeme ukuba eze ngokunikela ngokuphatha ikati. Ukuba ubona ukuba akakuhoyi, beka enye yazo ukuze isondele kwindawo yakhe, emva koko ubeke enye kodwa ngeli xesha ikufutshane kuwe.
- Ikati ngokuqinisekileyo ayinakukuthandabuza ukusondela kuwe, ke xa sele usondele kuyo, mayibe nephunga lakho, kwaye ukuba uyafuna, yinike unyango.
- Ngoku, mse ivumba lesandla sakho, kwaye ngobunono uqhube iminwe yakho phezu kwentloko yakhe.
- Ukuba uyayithanda, ungambetha umqolo ude ufike emsileni; Ngaphandle koko, kuya kufuneka uzinze ngokuphulula intloko namhlanje.
Phinda la manyathelo amaxesha amaninzi ngemini okwethutyana, kwaye uya kubona ukuba kancinci kancinci uza kuyifumana ikati yakho ukuba icinezelwe nguwe.
Ngaba zikhona iikati ezifumana uxinzelelo xa zichukumisiwe?
Iikati, njengabantu, zinobuntu bazo. Njengokuba kukho abantu abakhohlakeleyo abathanda ngakumbi ukuchukunyiswa, ukuphululwa okanye ukudibana ngokwasemzimbeni ngokubanzi… Into efanayo iyenzeka kwiikati. Kukho iikati ezikhetha ukugcina unxibelelwano ngakumbi nezinye iikati okanye abantu, kunye nezinye ngokulula, bahamba kakuhle ngendlela yabo.
Mhlawumbi ukhe wazibuza ukuba ungayiphathisa ikati yakho ngaphandle koxinzelelo, kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngenene? Ngaba kunyanzelekile ukuba ungayifuyisi ikati yakho ukuze izive ilungile ecaleni kwakho okanye ungayinika uthando lwakho kodwa ufuna yenze? Ngokwenyani, iikati ziseta imida ngokwakho. Ukuba ufuna ukubaphatha baya kukubonisa ngolwimi lwabo lomzimba, kwaye ukuba abafuni ... ngokufanayo. Nangona siphawula ngakumbi koku ukuze sikuqonde ngcono.
Ungaqhubeka nokuphulula ikati yakho ngaphandle kokukhathazeka, ukuba ikati yakho "ikuvumela" ukuba uyiphathe. Xa ubona ukuba akaziva ngathi udibana nomzimba, sukuthandabuza ukuba umnike indawo ukuze angabinangcwangu okanye ashiye icala lakho..
Kuyimfuneko ukwazi ukuba kukho iikati ezixinezeleke ngakumbi kunezinye, nokuba zine-cortisol eninzi egazini lazo kwaye oku kunokubenza babe novalo ngakumbi xa uziphulula. Oko akuthethi ukuba banoxinzelelo kuba uyabaphulula ... Kuphela kukuba banestresi kuba kukho into ebomini babo ebenza boyike kwaye bathambekele ekuthatheni izinto. Ukuba ucinga ukuba yile yenzekayo kwikati yakho, ingayinto entle ukujonga loo nto ibangela ukuba abe noxinzelelo lokuba akwazi ukuyilawula ngokukhawuleza..
Yintoni ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni ukuba ikati yakho ayizivumeli ukuba ichukunyiswe ngenxa yoxinzelelo
El uxinzelelo Kwizilwanyana kubonakala kwimpilo enkenenkene Kukho izinto ezimbini ezibonakala ngokukodwa. Enye yazo ziingxaki zolusu, ke ikati ilahlekelwa ziinwele ezincinci okanye izilungisa kakhulu kwindawo enye ukuze ibambe isikhumba okanye isilonda. Okwesibini ngu cystitis (usulelo lwe-urinary tract), oluqheleke kakhulu kwiikati.
Iimpawu ngokubanzi zoxinzelelo kwiikati ayenzeki ukuba zichongwe lula kuba azizizo izilwanyana ezibonisa. Bavame ukuzifihla iimvakalelo zabo xa bengonwabanga. Oko kuyathethwa, ikati echitha ixesha elininzi ifihle, phantsi kwefanitshala okanye phezulu egumbini, ngaphezulu kweekhabhathi kwaye olo hlobo lwento, ihlala iluphawu loxinzelelo. Ikati kufuneka ingene kwindawo elungileyo yokuzikhusela ngalo lonke ixesha phambi kokuba izive ikhululekile.
Ngaba iikati zingaphila kamnandi endlwini kunye nezinye iikati nokuba azifuyiswanga?
Ewe banako, kodwa akukho lula kangako ukufezekisa ulonwabo kunye neekati njengoko kunjalo nezinja. Uninzi lweenja zingathanda ukudibana nezinye izinja, kwaye ziya kukhawulezisa ukuseka ubudlelwane kunye nezinye. Banolwimi lomzimba, imiqondiso yokwenza. Ingxaki ngeekati kukuba azinayo inkqubo efanayo yokubonisa inja.
Kodwa kukho izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza ukuqinisekisa ukuba iikati ezimbini ziyavana. Into yokuqala kukuba licebo elihle ukukhetha iikati esele zihlala kunye, kwaye esona sisombululo sisoloko siikati ezimbini kwi-litter enye. Amakati angahlali kunye ukusukela besebancinci, kuya kufuneka wenze uhlobo lokwazisa ngononophelo. Eyona ndlela yokwenza oku kukulinganisa indlela iikati ezimbini ezinokuthi zifumanane ngayo, ngenxa yevumba labo. Kwaye ngeli xesha kungcono ungabancami ngoba bazakuba noxinzelelo, eyona nto intle kukuba uyabavumela ukuba babe ngabo basondela kuwe.
Ngaba iikati zingonwaba xa zihlala ezindlwini?
Iikati azidingi ndawo zininzi ukuze ziphile. Into abayifunayo yindawo ekhuselekileyo nesisiseko yokuhlala enomdla. Ukuphila komntu ngekati yangaphakathi kufuneka ihlawule ngakumbi ikati, ithathe amanyathelo ngakumbi okwenza ubomi bekati bunomdla...
Kwaye ikati ehlala ngaphakathi ezindlini inokuthi icele ukubethwa ngaphezulu kunekati enokuthi ivele ihambe, oko kukuthi, izimele ngakumbi kwaye inokuphanda "umhlaba phaya ngaphandle." Ngokwenyani ikati yakho ethatha isigqibo sokuba ngubani ophathaphathayo kwaye ngubani ongakwaziyo ukuyenza ... Ukuba "uyakuvumela" ukuba umnike uthando, zive unelungelo kuba oko kuthetha ukuba useke ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nawe.
Ngaba ikati yam ingandiphatha?
Ngokucacileyo ikati ayiziphathi njengabantu, kodwa enyanisweni, inako. Uya kukuphulula ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa umyalezo uyafana: nika kwaye wamkele uthando. Ikati efuna ukuboniswa kwakho okanye efuna ukubonisa uthando iya kuyenza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo:
- Ukuba secaleni kwakho ngalo lonke ixesha
- Ukukhangela ithanga lakho ukulala okanye ukuthula
- Ndilele ecaleni kwakho
- Ukuhlikihla ubuso bakhe kobakho
- Ukuhlikihla umzimba wakhe kwimilenze yakho
Ikati inako "ukukufuya" ngeendlela ezininziEyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba uyayenza, ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokwenza nangona ebekhe wakwenza oko ngaphandle kokukuvumela ukuba umphathe ... kuyimfuneko ukuba uyibuyise loo caress ukuze ubudlelwane bakho obomeleleyo buqiniswe.
Ngaba ikati engavumiyo ukuphululwa ikati yasendle?
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba. Ingcamango yokuba bebehlala ekhaya ixesha elide ngokwenene yinto elula.. Ikati yakho ephakathi, uyazi ukuba ngubani umama ngoba uye wayokukhangela ikati ukusuka kwenye indawo. Kodwa ngekhe wazi ukuba ngubani utata kuba iikati ziyaphuma zikhethe amaqabane abo.
Ngokusisiseko, leyo kukuziphatha kokulingana kwesilwanyana sasendle, hayi isilwanyana sasekhaya konke konke, kuba bakhetha abo badibana nabo. Amakati awanakwenziwa ngokwasekhaya ngengqondo yokuba uninzi lwezinja. Uninzi lweenja zinoluhlobo oluthile lokuzalwa kwimvelaphi yazo, ngelixa uninzi lweekati zing ... Kodwa nokuba yeyasendle okanye yeyasekhaya, iya kuba yikati yakho ethatha isigqibo sokuba uyayiphulula okanye hayi.
Ndinekati eyamthatha kwi-protectoa, wayenenyanga ezi-4 ubudala, ndandimhle kakhulu kwaye waziphethe kakuhle nonyana wam owayehlala edlala naye, ndambamba kuba wayehlala esithi mandithenge enye, ngaphakathi Ngokufutshane, kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ngoku malunga neminyaka emi-6 uhleli nam kuba umfazi wonyana wam akazithandi iikati (kodwa ukufika kwakhe kwam wadlala naye).
Kuba bendidlalile naye, ubonakala ngathi ngumdlali webhola olungileyo kwaye ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into unozinti olungileyo kuba ethatha yonke into kangangoko umphosayo kodwa akazivumeli ukuba acofwe kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke ambambe, akahambi konke konke, kunamaxesha apho ndingathanda ukumbamba, ndimwonge kwaye ndimve phakathi kweengalo zam kodwa oku akunakwenzeka.
Ndonwabile kakhulu ngaye kwaye mhle kakhulu kum.
Gracias
Molo Mary.
Zama ngamanye amaxesha ukunika iitoti zekati okanye ukuphatha. Bayayithanda kwaye ungakusebenzisa oku kutya ukubenza bazithembe ngakumbi. Ngelixa atyayo, phulula umqolo wakhe ngokungathi ngumntu ongayifuniyo loo nto: zimbini okanye zithathu ziyaphulula kwaye usirhola isandla sakho. Ke iintsuku ezininzi.
Kancinci kancinci uza kubona ukuba izokuza njani kuwe, uthambise imilenze yakho.
Ngendlela, xa ndikujonga, cofa amehlo kancinci. Oku kuya kumnika umyalezo omnandi kakhulu: ukuba uyamthanda kwaye angakuthemba. Ukuba naye wenza okufanayo, kungenxa yokuba uxabiso luyafana.
A ubingelele.
Molo, busuku obuhle, ugcobe iintsuku ezimbalwa, ndithathe ikati eneenyanga ezi-2 ubudala, isondela kum icela ukutya, kodwa xa ndifuna ukuyiphatha, yonke into ihamba de ndiyithobe, ayikuthandi ukuphathwa kwaye ngomzuzu wokumphulula, uyayeka, kwaye ndiyayithanda.Ngako ke ukuba ndimthwale ndimange ngenkani, ingaba ndiyaphosisa ukuyenza? Ngaba xa ndamkela ikatana yam yokuqala wayeza kuza yedwa Umthwale kwaye wayeza kuhlala ixesha elide ezingalweni zam elele kwaye ndifuna ukwenza okufanayo nekati kodwa akazivumeli, Ndingenza ntoni?
Molo Alejandra.
Kuya kufuneka uzuze ukuthembela kwakhe kancinci kancinci, ngemidlalo, iitoti zokutya kwekati emanzi, kunye nokumphulula umzekelo xa esitya, okanye xa elele. Ezi caresses kufuneka zihlale ixesha elifutshane ekuqaleni; Njengoko ubona ukuba iyasondela kuwe, unokuyiphulula rhoqo.
A ubingelele.
Molo, ndinamantshontsho eekati amnandi ma-4, kodwa enye yazo, ikati yesi-2 ebendinayo, ayinakuphikwa okanye ibanjwe ngaphambili, ukuba ishiywe idlala kakhulu, kodwa ndeza nenye ikati kwaye yayingasekho kwaye kwakunzima ebonakalayo, andazi ukuba yintoni eyayiza kwenza utshintsho olukhawulezileyo
Molo Gaby.
Ngaba zithathiwe? Ukuba akunjalo, amathuba okuba ungene ebushushu kwaye abanye abafuni ukusondela kakhulu.
Kwimeko apho ingcebiso yam kukuba ubathathe ukuze bathengelwe ukunqanda iingxaki.
A ubingelele.
Molweni, ndinekati endayichola ngo-Okthobha ka-2016 kwaye wayekhulelwe. Wayenothando, ethabatheka, kwaye wayengekho ndlongondlongo. Emva koko amantshontsho ekati azalwa, abancancisa de babanenyanga ezi-2 ubudala kwaye ndazigcina ezimbini.
Amantshontsho ekati sele eneenyanga ezi-4 ubudala kwaye ikati yam ineenyanga ezili-10 ubudala, kodwa ayikuvumeli ukuphululwa okanye ukuphathwa, iye yanolunya nkqu namantshontsho ayo. Ndingenza ntoni ???
Gracias
Molo uLuisa.
Mhlawumbi sele ubushushu kwakhona kwaye awufuni iikati zakho zijikeleze.
Ingcebiso yam kukuba umse endaweni yokuthintela inkunkuma kwaye umenze azole.
A ubingelele.
Mholo! Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo basishiyele ikatana eyoyikekayo emnyango saye sagqiba kwelokuba simamkele, njengoko ixesha lihamba uye wazithemba, kodwa ukusukela oko wayenathi akazange aqhakamshelane nezinye iikati. Kwenzeka ukuba kwiintsuku ezimbini ezidlulileyo sabona intshontsho lekati saza saligoduka, ikatana yethu ayikho nkulu kangako, ineenyanga ezi-4 ubudala, kodwa ikati imalunga neenyanga ezimbini ubudala. Ukufika kwakhe wasabela kakubi, sasingazange sambona ekhusela, kodwa sinabo kumagumbi ahlukeneyo kwaye sizisa intshontsho kwimizuzu eli-15 ukuze ikati ibone. Kodwa kusekho ukwaliwa okuninzi kwaye ngoku uzama ukuluma umsila wakhe nokukrwela, ndenza ntoni? Enkosi.
Molo Lulu.
Iikati zinendawo enkulu kakhulu ukusuka emncinci kakhulu. Ingcebiso yam kukugcina ikati egumbini iintsuku ezintathu. Beka ukutya kwakho, amanzi, ibhokisi yenkunkuma kunye nebhedi oyigqume ngengubo okanye ngelaphu. Gquma ibhedi yekati ngengubo okanye ngelaphu, kwaye ngomhla wesibini nowesithathu nitshintshe iingubo okanye ilaphu.
Ngosuku lwesine, mabadibane, kodwa gcina iliso kubo xa kunokwenzeka. Banike itoti yokutya okumanzi-zombini ngaxeshanye- ukuze babone ukuba akukho nto yenzekayo. Ukuba bayabhomboloza okanye bayarhona, kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Into engafanelekanga ukuba yenzeke kukuba uboya babo buyaqhwaba kwaye bayalwa. Ukuba ubona ukuba bayakwenza, hlulahlula uze uzame kwakhona ngosuku olulandelayo.
Inkuthazo enkulu.
Molo, ndinento ebangela ukusukela ngo-Okthobha u-2016, sayithatha kunye ngaphezulu nje kweenyanga ezimbini kwaye ukufika kwayo yayiyintanda. Uye alale ecaleni kwethu, simthambise simhlambe de alale… Kodwa njengoko ixesha lihamba wayeka ukuba njalo kwaye waqala waziphatha ngakumbi. Waqala ukudlala ngezandla zakhe, ukulala yedwa ... Ukuya kuthi ga ngoku angabinakucinezelwa, usirhoxise isandla sakhe kwaye aqale akukhothe de ube uyasinda ugqiba ukuluma. Andinangxaki nokuba abe yile ndlela ayiyo, kodwa ndingathanda ukuba abuyele ekubeni yikati ethandekayo awayefudula eyiyo.
Molo Javi.
Ngaba ikho into eyenzekileyo ebinokutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo ngoku okanye kwixa elidlulileyo? Umzekelo, intshukumo, ukuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo, umzuzu woxinzelelo, ...
Ngapha koko, ikati yakho kufuneka ibe malunga neenyanga ezisixhenxe ubudala, akunjalo? Kule minyaka kuxa befikelela ekukhuleni ngokwesondo (ngamanye amaxesha nangaphambi koko). Ukuba akathathi cala, unokuziva ekhathazekile. Ngokwesiqhelo ikati eshushu iba nothando kakhulu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kuyenzeka ukuba abe mncinci, masithi, uyacaphuka.
Ingcebiso yam kukuba umthathe ayokuthena xa kunokwenzeka angabi njalo. Ayisiyiyo yokwenza ukuba abuyele koko wayeyiyo kodwa ukunqanda ukungcola okungafunekiyo.
Olunye ukhetho kukumnika iinkonkxa zokutya okumanzi amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye uthathe ithuba lokutya ukuze akuphathe. Kubalulekile ukudlala nayo, umzekelo ngentambo, kuba umdlalo yeyona ndlela isebenzayo yokufumana ukuthembana kunye nobuhlobo bekati. Kancinci kancinci kufanele ukuba abe nobubele nothando olukhulu kuwe.
A ubingelele.
Mholo! Kwiintsuku ezimbini ezidlulileyo ndaye ndathatha intshontsho lekati, lalingene kwigaraji yomakhelwane laza lambeka ukutya kodwa alakwazi ukukugcina apho ngenxa yezikhalazo zabamelwane. Ikati imalunga nonyaka ubudala kwaye wayenobuqhetseba obukhulu kwaye ephuma kakhulu, wayeka ukufunqulwa kwaye wade wandanga ezandleni zam ndingazazi, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndimzise ekhaya ndimbeke kwigumbi elahlukileyo, mna ndineekati ezimbini ekhaya (eyasetyhini neyindoda, zombini zithenjiwe) kwaye okoko intsha inuka, akafuni ukuba ndimthambise, utya kamnandi, kodwa uchitha ixesha elininzi kumphathi, kwaye xa yenza ngathi uzomphatha uyarhona. Ndingenza ntoni ukuze amthembe kwakhona? Liliphi elona xesha lilungileyo kunye nendlela yokumazisa kwezinye iikati? Ndiyabulela kwangoko!!
Molo Yanet.
Kuqhelekile ukuba ikati izive ngathi "yoyisiwe" lutshintsho. Kungathatha iintsuku ezininzi ukuba uqhelane nekhaya lakho elitsha.
Ukuvana neekati, ndincoma ukuba uqale ubuyise ukuzithemba kwabo, kwaye oku akukho nto ibhetele kunokuzinika iitoti zekati amaxesha ngamaxesha (ukuba unako, enye ngosuku). Ngosuku lokuqala, ungenzi nto, hlala usondele kuye. Kodwa okwesibini ungazama ukumphulula "ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa"; Ukuba ubona ukuba unovalo kunye / okanye ukukrweca kuwe, ungayenzi kwaye uzame ngengomso, kodwa ukuba uyaqhubeka nokutya ngokuzolileyo, mbambe kancinci.
Yandisa ngokuqhubekayo ixesha olisebenzisayo ukuliphulula. Emva kokutya, kuyacetyiswa ukuba udlale nayo, ngentambo umzekelo. Kungekudala uza kukuthemba kwakhona.
Xa ezolile nawe, ungaqala ukumnxibisa nezinye iikati. Gquma ibhedi yabo kunye nezinye ezinoboya ngengubo okanye ngelaphu (kuxhomekeke ekubeni kukwindla okanye ehlotyeni), kwaye uzitshintshe kusuku olulandelayo.
Ngomhla wesine / wesihlanu ungabonisa, kodwa ubekhona ngalo lonke ixesha. Ukuba bayarhona okanye bayagquma yinto eqhelekileyo, into ekungafunekiyo bayenze kukujongana bebonisa amazinyo abo. Ukuba benjenjalo, zigcine zahlukile usuku olunye kwaye uzame kwakhona.
Tyhila.
Molo! Ndinekati abandinike yona izolo, andazi ukuba zingaphi iinyanga kodwa kubonakala ngathi zineenyanga ezi-4 okanye ezi-3 ubudala, inqaku lelokuba loyike kakhulu, ayikuvumeli ukuphululwa kwaye iyafihla apho ingafumanekiyo, kakhulu kangangokuba kunzima kuthi ukuyisusa, kuba sifuna ungaziva usoyika ukuzama ukuyisusa ngenkani, kananjalo andazi ukuba ndingabumisa njani ubudlelwane obunobuhlobo, obunothando kunye nobabini phakathi ezibini, ucebisa ntoni? ...
Molo, Elizabeth.
Kufuneka ube nomonde. Amakati angathatha ukuqheleka kakhulu.
Nika amantshontsho ekati okanye ukuphatha ikati kumaxesha ngamaxesha, Mmeme ukuba adlale nawe, kwaye mvumele aphonononge ikhaya lakhe elitsha.
Xa esondela kuwe ngaphandle koloyiko, mbambise amaxesha ngamaxesha, ngokungathi akafuni ngokwenene. Ekuqaleni uya kuziva ungonwabanga, kwaye usenokude ubuye uzibuze ukuba kwenzeke ntoni, kodwa qhubeka nokwenza oku iintsuku / iiveki ezimbalwa.
Musa ukumnyanzela ukuba enze nantoni na. Qaphela indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Mjonge ngothando kwaye unciphise amehlo akho; Ke uya kuqonda ukuba uyamthanda, kwaye angakuthemba. Ukuba naye wenza okufanayo, sele ukwazile ukumthemba.
Kodwa oku kuthatha ixesha, ixesha. Yiya ngesantya sakho kwaye uza kubona ukuba yonke into iza kuhamba njani.
A ubingelele.
Hola
Ndinekati esele indala, ndiyicholile esitalatweni malunga neenyanga ezimbini ezidlulileyo, ayikaze ivumele ukuphululwa, sele isondela kum, xa ndithetha ngayo iyeza, sele inenzala . Namhlanje bendiphethe amaphetshana ngesandla ndizamile ukumphulula ngamashiti, uye wemka, kodwa ke weza kum wandikrwempa umlenze, waba nomsindo kuba ndizamile ukumbamba futhi wazifumana. Ndingayenza njani ibe nobuhlobo?
Molo Diana.
Amakati xa ethathwa esitratweni njengabantu abadala aneengxaki zokuziqhelanisa, ngakumbi ukuba azikaze zinxibelelane nabantu ngaphambili.
Kufuneka sibe nomonde. Ungazami ukuwuphulula, ungasathathi ke ukuba awufuni. Kungcono uhambe kancinci kancinci.
Ukunikezela ukuphatha ikati, okanye ukutya okumanzi (iinkonkxa). Mmeme ukuba adlale, umzekelo, ngentambo.
Njengoko ixesha lihamba, uya uzithemba ngakumbi.
Unezinye iingcebiso kwi Oku kubhaliwe.
A ubingelele.
Molo, sithathe ikati yabantu abadala (engafakwanga neutered) kuba abanini bayo bangakwazanga ukuyikhathalela. Ingxaki ivela kwinto yokuba akavumeli ukuphululwa, ukuxubha, okanye ukusika iinzipho ... Ukujikeleza indlu, uyabaleka kuyo yonke kodwa nathi akukho ndlela. Uhleli ekhaya iintsuku ezimbalwa ... Mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka simnike ixesha elingaphezulu? Simnika amabhaso kodwa angawafuni… andazi ukuba ndingenza ntoni.
Molo uAnna.
Ewe ifuna ixesha 🙂
Mnike iinkonkxa zekati (ukutya okumanzi) amaxesha ngamaxesha, kwaye umeme ukuba adlale ngeentambo okanye ngeebhola. Kancinci kancinci uya kukuthemba.
A ubingelele.
Bandinike ikati enenyanga emibini enesiqingatha kwaye ayifuni ukuphuma phantsi kwebhedi kwaye ayivumeli ukuba ichukunyiswe, inoburhalarhume kakhulu, ndingenza ntoni
Molo Dunia.
Kubalulekile ukuba nomonde kakhulu. Mnike ukutya kwekati emanzi (njengoko inevumba elinamandla, uya kuyithanda), Mmeme ukuba adlale yonke imihla ngentambo okanye ngebhola, kwaye uyakubona ukuba ethubeni uyakuthemba.
Tyhila.
Sawubona!
Yamkele ikatana xa yayineenyanga ezimbini ubudala. Okwangoku uneenyanga ezi-4 ubudala, kwaye zonke iikati ezisendlwini yam zishushu, inyani kukuba, andazi nokuba wayeshushu na kuba wayesemncinci kakhulu. Kodwa mva nje uyazivumela ukuba acofwe kancinci, unomsindo kakhulu,
(Inayo malunga neveki enye.) Ungabavumeli bayibambe, kuba iqala ukuluma kwaye ihambe ukuze bayikhulule. Inokuba kwenzeka ntoni kuye? Ngaba ikhona into ebuhlungu? Ngaba uya kukhulelwa? Kwaye kutheni ivunyelwe ukuba ichukunyiswe?
Nceda!
-Enkosi
Molo carmen.
Mhlawumbi ukhulelwe, ewe. Ndikucebisa ukuba uthathe iikati ukuba zithenwe, ngokuqinisekileyo ikati iya kubuyela kwindlela ebikade inayo ngaphambili.
A ubingelele.
Molo, kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ndineekati ezimbini (umama nentombi) kodwa umama (keilly) uvumela kuphela amantshontsho aphile kwaye abulale iinkunzi; Kwelinye icala, intombi (Mía) inekatana (Felicia) kodwa ndiyishiya "ikwinkathalo" kaKeilly, intshontsho kufuneka libe neenyanga ezimbini ubudala, kodwa ayivumeli ukuba ichukunyiswe kwaye ilume okanye ikrwembe , UKeilly usandula ukufumana enye intshontsho (Ambar) yeeveki ezi-3 kwaye zombini iikati zekati zihlala kunye kodwa ndinexhala lokuba uFelicia akatyi ngokwaneleyo ngoko ndingathanda ukwazi ukuba ungasondela njani ukuchukumisa uFelicia kwaye ukwazi ukumtyisa, kodwa yena ihlala ifihla kwaye iqala ukufuna ukuhlasela njengoko ndinokuyenza ukuyithatha kwaye ndiyondle
Molo valeria.
Ukuba unako ukuhlawula, kungcono ukubathatha ukuba bathenwe, bonke, nokuba ngabancinci xa bekwiminyaka yobudala (iinyanga ezintandathu).
Into yokuba zingathathi hlangothi inokubenza boyike kakhulu, kuba banamantshontsho okukhusela nawokukhathalela.
Ukuphucula ukuhlalisana, unganika ukutya kwekati emanzi kubo bonke ngaxeshanye. Wasebenzise loo mzuzu ukubaphulula (ngaphandle kokubangxixha). Chitha ixesha kunye nabo, kwaye umeme uFelicia ukuba adlale ngentambo okanye enye into yokudlala. Uyanyanzelisa yonke imihla, kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe uya kuzola kunye nawe.
A ubingelele.
Mholo! Sithathe ikati esitalatweni malunga neenyanga ezi-3-4. Ikati iyoyika kakhulu kwaye emva kweveki khange siyiqaphele inkqubela phambili. Uhlala efihliwe, unobuso obuhlungu, udibana kakhulu ngakumbi xa eyedwa kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba asondele kuba woyika kukoyika kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba usondele kakhulu uyaxhuma.
Xa sisegumbini lokuhlala, akasusi amehlo akhe kuthi. Sizamile ukumfundisa ukutya, senze ngathi akekho, simfundisa iithoyi kanti akhonto ...
Asazi ukuba simenzele into ethile ngokuza naye okanye simcaphukisile kuba akafuni kuba sendlini ...
Kuyaphambana ... Sinokwenza ntoni?
Gracias
Molo uLidiana.
Ngelo xesha, ikati elahlekileyo sele iqonda ukuba iphi kwaye, ewe, ibingazange ihlale nabantu ngaphambili, ayazi ukuba yintoni.
Okwangoku, akukabi lixesha lokuba akuqhele, njengoko eselusana. Kodwa kuya kufuneka ube nomonde kwaye unyanzelise kakhulu, kunye nemidlalo, ngokutya.
Imeko-bume kufuneka izolile, ngaphandle kwengxolo enkulu okanye iintshukumo zequbuliso.
Ukuba ungafumana iFeliway kwi-diffuser (kwiivenkile zezilwanyana) ngokugqibeleleyo, iya kukunceda uzolile.
Inkuthazo enkulu.
Umtshana wam wamkela ikati eneminyaka emi-2 ubudala, kwindawo yokuhlala wasondela kuye wacinga ukuba kuyafana nasekhaya. Unayo phantse iinyanga ezi-6 kwaye khange akwazi ukusondela. Ukholelwa ukuba wayehlukunyezwa kwaye akazange ahlale nosapho. Akafuni ukumnyanzela kwaye unethemba lokuba kancinci kancinci uza kuyiqhela. Ngaba unokwenza nantoni na ukukhawulezisa le ndlela?
Molo uPilar.
Wowu, ihlwempu 🙁
Kwezi meko kufuneka ube nomonde kakhulu. Kwaye, ngaphezulu kwako konke, zama ukungangxoli.
Sebenzisa kude kunye nokudlala umculo ozolileyo (njengeMelika yaseMelika, umzekelo, okanye isiJapan sendabuko) zizinto ezincinci ezinokunceda.
Ndikwacebisa ukumnika ukutya kwekati kunye neenkonkxa zokutya okumanzi amaxesha ngamaxesha (le yokugqibela ngamanye amaxesha, kuba kungenjalo angayiqhela kwaye angafuni ukutya ukutya kwakhe kwesiqhelo).
Kwaye ukuba ayikaphucuki, kukho ithuba lokubonisana nengcali malunga nokuziphatha komfazi. Ukuba uvela eSpain, sinezinto ezimbini ezilungileyo kakhulu: enye nguLaura Trillo Carmona (ovela kwi-therapyfelina.com) kwaye enye nguJordi Ferrés (ovela kwi-educadordegats.cat/es/index.html).
Inkuthazo enkulu.
Ndineekati ezi-2 ezingoodade, bandinika zona ukusukela besebancinci emva kokuba bezimele kunina wabo ikati ... xa beziswa kuba kucacile ukuba bebekhathazekile kwaye babalekile bayokufihla emva kwe-1 yabo waqala ukusondela kum emva koko ndaqala ukumshiya Emva koko waphulula omnye wamlandela kodwa ukusukela bakhula (iinyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-5) le yaqala ukusondela kum ngoku ayithandi mntu ukuba ayiphathe kwaye naye uyakhala ugqibelele, simsa rhoqo kugqirha wezilwanyana kwaye ugonyiwe ngaphandle kokuba sele eqalile ukusebenza malunga neenyanga ezi-2, xa ikati yam ilele akazikhathazi ngokuthanjiswa ade alungise ukuze ipanita neendevu zakhe ziphathwe kodwa uvuka kakhuluyyyy kunqabile ukuba uhlala ebaleka okanye ekhala (kodwa ukuba ndithetha naye Ufika kowokuqala, uyaqondwa kakhulu kodwa kubonakala kumnqa kum ukuba akavumeli ukuphathwa okanye nantoni na) udadewabo utshintshe nokuba akulume ukuze umphulule, uyayithanda xa inguye othi xa ndifika nje kuthathe ixesha elide ukusondela ndabhomboloza kum.
Hola uIsake.
Kukho iikati ... kunye neekati. Kwenzeka kum, ukuba ndineekati ezinyibilikayo nge caresses, kodwa endaweni yoko ndinekati engathandi kakhulu. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo. 🙂
Ungazama ukumphulula xa exakekile, umzekelo, xa esitya, kodwa ukuba akayithandi… akukho nto.
A ubingelele.
Mholweni. Ndinendawo yokugcina ikati. 21 iyonke. Kukho ikati (ukusuka kwikati ehlanguliweyo eyayikhulelwe) eyayisoloko yoyika kakhulu. Uyazivumela ukuba acofwe kuphela xa ndimtyisa, kodwa yonke imihla uyabaleka kwaye angandivumeli ukuba ndisondele (ngaphandle kokumbamba). Phantse uneminyaka emi-2 ngoku, kodwa indlela awayeziphatha ngayo yayihlala ifana. Ndikunye noodadewabo ababini kunye nezinye iikati andinangxaki, kodwa le inika ingxaki kuba andinakusondela ngaphandle nje kancinci xa ndimtyisa. Ngaba ikhona into endinokuyenza? Ndizamile into yokutya, kodwa nje ukuba ndihambe ngaphandle kokutya iyaphela. Andiqapheli ukuba luloyiko (ukuba omnye umntu ungena kwindawo engcwele yahlukile, iyangcangcazela). Xa ndibakhulisa nomama kunye nosisi, wavumela ukuba abanjwe, nangona wayehlala engoyena mntu.
Hola Daniyeli.
Ukusuka kwinto oyithethayo, loo kati ayithandi ukuphathwa okanye ukuboniswa kothando olubandakanya ukubonwa komzimba. Akukho nto yenzekayo. Kufuneka uyihlonele 🙂
Ukumbonisa ukuba uyamthanda, akuyomfuneko ukuba ube nawe. Ngokumjonga nangokuqhwanyaza kancinci uza kube sele umxelela ukuba uziva unombulelo ngaye.
A ubingelele.
Molweni, ndinekati emalunga neenyanga ezi-6 okanye ezisi-7, ndiyifumene esitalatweni xa yayiphakathi kweenyanga ezimbini ukuya kwezi-2 ubudala, into eyenzekayo kukuba yayindlongondlongo, ayindivumeli ukuba ndiyithwale umzuzwana, kwaye ngaphambi kokuqala wayelele emgodini ophezulu okwethutyana kodwa ngoku akalali naphi na, ukhululekile, kwaye unezinto zokudlala ezininzi kwaye ndiyadlala naye kodwa uhlala ekhwela kuyo yonke indawo, eluma iintambo nayo yonke into, endikrweca kwaye umama, umbuzo ngowokuba nguye yedwa olalayo xa sishiya umthuthi okanye ebusuku simshiya ekhitshini nokutya kwakhe, amanzi, igumbi lokuhlambela nebhedi yakhe nditsho nezinto zokudlala. Kodwa asisazi ukuba senze ntoni, phantse yonke imihla uyasikrwempa, ndiyazi ukuba uyayenza ngelixa edlala kodwa isonzakalisa kakhulu kwaye akayiqondi imida. Andazi ukuba ukumsa kwi-castrate kuyakuphucula isimilo sakhe, kodwa ndiyathemba njalo. Kuba ukuhlala kunye ngolu hlobo kuba nzima kakhulu.
Molo Romina.
Ukuphosa kuye yinto endiyincomayo, kuba iyakumhlisa umsindo. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ayizukuyilungisa ingxaki. Ukuze yenzeke lonto kufuneka uzixhase ngomonde, udlale kakhulu naye kwaye umfundise sukukrwempa sele sele Andilumi.
A ubingelele.
Mva
Samkela intshontsho eluvalelweni, siyathemba ukuba unenyanga yokuba amzise ekhaya, simphatha ngothando olukhulu kwaye siyamteketisa, simthengela izinto zakhe zokudlala, iibhedi zeelekese, kodwa kwelinye icala akabonakalisi luthando, uvumela kuphela intloko yakhe ukuba icinezelwe, ukuba ndiyawucinezela umzimba ukukunika i-nibble (ngokukhululekileyo) ungaze unyuke emilenzeni yethu, ukuba umntu ufike ekhaya uyambetha, ukuze nje alale ukhwela kwenye yeebhedi nathi alale iinyawo, iintombi zam ziyamnqula kodwa akabonakalisi kuthandana kwamalungu osapho, uhlala ehamba ngendlela yakhe, uyathobela kuphela xa umbiza ukuba atye, kwezinye iimeko hayi.
Molo uFrancisco.
Ikati nganye inesimo sayo, kwaye ayinakutshintshwa.
Into onokuyenza kukumnika amaxesha ngamaxesha, kwaye amaxesha ngamaxesha-ngaphandle kokumoyikisa-phatha intloko yakhe encinci ngelixa esitya. Kancinci kancinci uya kwamkela ngakumbi.
Kodwa ndinyanzelisa, ukuba akathandani ngokukodwa, akukho nto yenzekayo. Enye yeekati zam ayivumeli ukuba icholwe nayo, kodwa ibonisa uthando ngezinye iindlela (ukucothisa kancinci, ukurabha emilenzeni, ukuvumela intloko yakhe ukuba iphulwe).
Nibuliso!
Mva ntambama,
Kwiinyanga ezi-4 ezidlulileyo ndiye ndamkela intshontsho lekati elilahlekileyo malunga neenyanga ezi-6. We neutered her kwangoko kuba sendinayo enye ikati elingana nayo.
Ingxaki yeyokuba yikati eyoyikeka kakhulu kwaye ayimthembi kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uyiphulule xa ikwiqonga layo kodwa awukwazi ukuyibamba. Kuyo nayiphi na enye imeko, ubaleka esoyika aze azifihle. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ikati nganye yahlukile kwaye ngendingenangxaki nayo ukuba bekungengoba asinokwazi ukumthatha simse kugqirha wezilwanyana. Ungena kwimowudi yoloyiko, i-hyperventilate kwaye azichamele kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyakukrwempa kwaye abaleke ngendlela yokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba umfake kumthwali. Ndithe ndakumamkela sele kunzima ukumbamba, kodwa wafika engondlekanga kwaye engenawo amandla angako. Ngoku akunakwenzeka. Andazi ukuba mandenze ntoni na.
Ndingavuya naziphi na iingcebiso. Enkosi.
Molo Alicia.
Kwiinyanga ezintandathu wayeyinjana, kodwa ngokuba sesitratweni wayephantse alungiselele ukuba ngumntu omdala. Ixesha lokuhlalisana kwekati lihamba ukusuka kwiinyanga ezi-2 ukuya kwezi-3 (iveki ukuya phezulu / ezantsi), ke ngeenyanga ezintandathu kubiza kancinci ukuba iqhelane nokuhlala ngaphakathi.
Oku akuthethi ukuba akunakwenzeka, kodwa kunzima ngakumbi.
Ingcebiso yam kukuba uzifumanele iitoti ezimbalwa zokutya kwekati, kwaye uhlale ushiya umthwali evulekile ekoneni. Yonke imihla, okanye nanini na xa ucinga ngako, mnike ukutya okunkonkxiweyo ngokubeka ipleyiti yeemitha ezimbini ukusuka kumthwali; ukuba akathanga ayidle, yibeke kude; Kwiintsuku ezilandelayo, yibeke kancinane ixesha ngalinye (sithetha ngeesentimitha).
Ingcamango ngale nto kukuba uziva ukhululekile kunye nomthwali osecaleni kwakho.
Emva kokuba uyifezekisile, faka ipleyiti yokutya ngaphakathi kweso sithwala, ushiye umnyango uvulekile. Kwenze kangangeentsuku ezininzi, kuba kufuneka ubone ukuba unokuyisebenzisa ngokungathi yenye indawo yokusabela.
Xa ilixesha lokuya kwi-vet, kufuneka ubeke ukutya kwi-carrier okanye ukukhanga ngokunyanga.
Kakade ke, kufuneka ube nomonde kakhulu. Kodwa kancinci kancinci uya kubona iziphumo.
Nibuliso!